going bi over high heel boots

deafty · 4th February 2003, 07:32

i meet a guy while shopping for a pair of boots for my girl frend and it has changed me for ever has any one had a simular experence[/quote]

Bubba136 · 4th February 2003, 17:26

In what way, deafty? Please explain.

Francis · 4th February 2003, 19:17

I think I can understand how you could get sexually confused while shopping for heels, but this experience has never happened to me.
If you think you are developing Bi feelings then it may be something for you to explore, they were obviously there before heels came into the equation.
I'm not anti-gay or anti-bi, but the idea of two blokes together in a sexual context doesn't sit right with me. What two consenting adults do in their own time is nothing to do with me and I've nothing against gay men as long as they don't include me.
According to a gay freind of mine, "being sexually attracted to a member of the same sex is nothing to be ashamed of, it just makes the playing field a little different".

TallSwede · 4th February 2003, 19:35

I can only add to Francis words.

The feeling of bi or hetero (or whatever) has not popped up while looking at HH's. -If you are unsure of where you belong in this specific respect, I do think that you should (perhaps (if possible) "silently") investigate this further before "jumping" to conclusions at either way.

Feeling to live in a "wrong body" (in lack of better words) must be a very despairing thing. -I admit to not have noticed your (stated) age, but being young and seeking a profile of your own is not easy, so take it slow and try to feel for what feels best (also in the long run...).

It is your life, which I hope will be long and prosperous..., so try to think ahead and consider which alternatives are rash, and which are worth exploring ASAP.

-Good luck,

TallSwede

Firefox · 5th February 2003, 01:50

I'm suprised that sort of thing awakened your sexuality in one direction or another. I've never had any feelings for someone of the same sex, and the shoes have never come into it either way. However, I respect gays and bi people. Everyone is different so go with where your feelings take you and enjoy it :)

Tahira · 5th February 2003, 03:56

In my case I'm not sexually confused, I love women and admire other people who wear heels no matter what gender they are. I'm a hetero 100% which means I love to dress very feminine but doesnt mean I love guys. In fact I would love to be with girls who loves to dress very sexy as I do. I would like to hear your opinion.

Yamyam · 7th February 2003, 22:13

I've never had a similar experience... but that doesn't mean I won't, I suppose. I don't think there's any such thing as 100% heterosexual. People are just sexual. I don't think it's like two sides of a coin - it's more like a sliding scale, with 'attracted to members of the opposite sex' at one end, and 'attracted to members of the same sex' at the other end. We're all in there somewhere, some nearer one end, some nearer the other. There's a time when feelings get confused, and you're not sure what you want. It's the brief interval between birth and death, I think.

So... what am I saying. Hey, what am I saying? I'm saying that in a new and stressful situations, you might find your feelings going a bit bonkers. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong, just you've broken your brain a bit. You might like to just leave it at that and move on. If you decide that you don't want to leave it there, but explore more, then explore more.

deafty, you didn't say what had happened, but it just isn't worth doing your head in over one moment, one experience, one time, no matter how weird. It's no stranger than wondering what ginger chocolate tastes like, trying it, and discovering it's absolutely vile (but having to swallow anyway :) )

I agree with FireFox's comment about about following your feelings. It's a hard road to take, but ultimately worth it. I'm nearly sure where my road is taking me, and I'm (only just) 33 years old. Unless you're over 100, then you've got time to explore.

Hope this helps. PM me if you want to, I'm nearly always here, or thereabouts.

As long as you don't hurt anyone, then no harm's done.