Marcus

He said I can start my own thread in the everybody section inspired by that particular thread in the girl section, if I'm not wrong.
Yep, he's right, even if I should then credit the girl in my thread. And that's true, sometimes I forget pms exist to ask such things :)

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fastfreddy2

"The Rule" seems simple to me, only those registered as women can post in the Girls Only forum. <A rather cynical swipe at the undeniable fact that you can claim to be anything in the virtual world.>

If there's a topic in the Girls Only forum you'd like to discuss/debate, (and can't join in the debate there), it's kinda obvious a new thread in the 'Everyone' section is required. It would seem completely unrealistic to think the Girls own a particular topic, and if there's enough duplication I'm sure the Mods/Admin will merge the threads anyway.

A link to the post that a respondant perhaps feels inclined to reply to may be pertinent, and a PM advising the original poster (author who had written the post), might be considered courteous. At least it'll ensure an opportunity for a counter comment to the respondent is not missed.


As broad statement, I don't agree with ANY segregation, because I don't think it's healthy. But with the history I've been advised of, I suppose it's a necessary 'evil' here.


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fastfreddy2

I've managed to post I think twice on the Girls Section, by accident. When I log in, I use the 'New Post' button, and just read through those which seem interesting. For some time I didn't check the forum they were written in. It isn't until I press the 'Post' button and re-read my text that I realise my mistake. Since we can't delete our own posts, I'd deleted the text and asked Mods to finish the job off. Hopefully I've stopped doing it.

In fact, I try hard to avoid looking in the Girls Section. I treat it rather ike a Ladies handbag, or the Ladies loo. If people need/want somewhere personal to chat, I think they should have it. I'd actually prefer it if the Girls Section was hidden from the men members. Or me at least?


Since I don't write in the Girls Section, I doubt the reference above is pointed at me. But I have asked for a photograph (via PM) from someone here. Not a 'show us yer bits' request, nor a show us your shoes' request either. But a 'who am I talking to' request.... A couple of the girls here model, so I can see they are real. I've met quite a few people here too, so I know they are real.....

But in the virtual world, how do we tell whether the person who claims to be "22 year old pole-dancer with Account Facilities at a Harley Street Cosmetic Surgeon and a taste for wearing HH on a 24/7 basis" isn't really a 14 year old school boy with enough intellect to 'entertain' several hundred members here? Or worse, how do we know they're not a 24 year old reporter working for the Sun Newspaper looking for a bit of scandal to 'make their mark'? Certainly on another BB I'm member of, a couple of people there were directly quoted in a newspaper! You just can't tell.....


Personally, I like to have some F-2-F contact with someone I'm having a conversation with. If that's not possible, I'll compromise. But I think it imprudent to have a personal conversation with someone who won't qualify themselves. That of course will mean ensuring my personal security/integrity will cost me what might be a fruitful relationship with someone I wouldn't otherwise converse with, but it'll also ensure I don't get found to be discussing anything intimate with a 14 year old schoolboy from an inner London school.


I must confess I find it quite a hard balancing act. Providing enough information/advice/support to make my input worthwhile to other readers, while keeping myself uninvolved enough to not be too interested in others here. Just like a moth to a flame, I find participation here quite inviting. But the reality is, of the 300 or so active members here (if there's that many), they'll be 300 ideas on what is or isn't appropriate behaviour from every other member. The opportunities to inadvertently upset or insult someone is enormous.

Thankfully, most here are a good humoured sort and take comments made in 'glass-half-full' mode, rather than 'half-empty'. Put another way, most here see comments in a positive light, rather than the alternative.

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Richie

I've moved this thread as it only a discussion about the forum part of our web site only and one of its rules.

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Nigel

Thank you, and that is the way we are trying to run things for you all.

Some of the guys want to be a part of the girls discussions. but then the girls start leaving and everybody complains even more that we did nothing to keep them here.

The website team do discuss the girls here, but only the ones that give us reason for suspicion or openly admit to being a man or married.

There is nothing really to discuss , the membership wanted this and this is what we now have, it is difficult for the new members to understand how bad this place was at one point or another, its worthwhile also noting that some of the members that ruined it for the rest of us no longer post here often (maybe because they cant disrupt the girls section?)

Anyway, I think you know it is for the greater good, and anybody can start a topic that is already in the girls section in the 'for everybody' section, the girl who started the topic in the girls section is also more than welcome to PM one of the team and ask us to pop it in the for everybody section, even merge the threads together.

You see, there is no end to what we can do and talk about as a community, but lets keep the girls section just for the girls.

Thanks.

BTW, as there will be no option to change the rule on the girls section, its not worth posting here asking for it to be changed, but the points of views so far are more than welcome.

Thank you.

Nigel

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Britana

I also find this rule odd, mostly because the forum is visible, but off limits. I have no problem with following it or understanding its purpose. I have on one occassion started a new thread to respond to a topic, but honestly don't have the time to do it in most cases or the ability to link posts and all that other HTML stuff (ok I'm lazy!). I often have thoughts, most of which I would hope would be professional and well received, but I simply just let them go and maybe PM someone if it feels important.

Maybe it is impractical, but it seems a broader policy to prevent harrassment of ALL members, including our female members, would cover this problem. But, I can't complain since the mods here are great and the effort to maintain the site has to be enormous! And, the rules not gonna change anyway!

Nigel

Again,

you are a fairly new member here and wont know anything of the problems we had in the past, thanks for your thoughts.

Nigel.

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roz

Hello members,

Thought I would clarify my comment about saying about men asking for pictures. I honestly don't mind, especially if it's a "by the way" on the end of another comment, but there are a few members who just reply "pics please" just like that. I've seen it a few times, and I find that type of remark unconstructive and a bit selfish. Saying "Wow, that sounds great - have you got any pics" is so much more productive, but some members seem to only exist to seek pics of girls in shoes as opposed to genuinely being interested.

If you feel embarrassed having asked me (or anyone) for pics, don't be, the very fact you think that probably means I'm not talking about you.

fastfreddy2

I have decided it's a 'peculiarity' of the site, and resigned myself to it's existence. It's not a big deal, though as a newbie it seemed like one.


The way to 'remove' it, is to remove the necessity by making the rest of the site more interesting for the womenfolk. Then they will choose to stay amongst the rest of us whenever they post.


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benno

I have a sneaky suspicion that quite a few of the women on this site are not women in the biological sense. So many of the posts are fetish related rubbish written by men so that they can get a cheap thrill.

What's to stop me making a new female alias and posting to my hearts content in the women's section of the forum?

It would be great if the women's and men's sections could be closed forever and more issue specific sections could be added to the forum as a whole. I understand the reasons for the women only section, but could the problem not be solved via careful moderation of the offensive 'Can I have a picture of you squashing a melon wearing seamed stockings and high heels whilst you beat egg whites to a stiff peak with an antique whisk' type requests?

Thanks,

Ben