fastfreddy2

Artic:

Great pictures, especially the ones of NY. You have an eye for style, which completely explains why you would buy the HD boots. <I'll just bathe in your reflected glory>

Excellent advice on the 'what to wear' when heeling for some time, and over distance.



Thighboots2:

You too sir! Great wisdom.


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heelma

Ahem... what am I missing here? I hardly see any heel pictures, whether of you guys or of other people in heels?

Arctic

That is due to the honoring of the request to remove the pics where people are personally identifyable.

And the purpose wasn't the hunt for pictures of people in heels, but to create the experience of wearing them.

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Stilettoscot

Thighboots,
I appreciate your comments, and wisdom. And am not saying you are wrong in any way...but...
Isn't "labelling" when a man should and shouldn't wear a certain heel style (due to being "out of place") being nearly as close-minded as people who say men should never wear heels of any kind in the first place?
I know I am relatively new here, and to attempting to be "stylish" in general. But I thought the whole point of this place was to accept men in heels in general, not really to embark limitations on when men "should" or "shouldn't" wear what, quite frankly, they enjoy so as others not to be "emarrased" to be near?
To be honest, most of the places I feel most comfortable wearing my heels (all stiletto right now) are in club-type atmoshperes, and probably for the reasons you describe. I would like to buy other style heels to augment my collection, not to have them be limited to worn only to certain places. I just don't get excited looking at shoes with more "conventional and discreet" heels (ie, 2-3" block type heel) that men are "supposed" to wear in public. Isn't the feeling of excitement what it's about?
Take guys like Roni and Kneehighs. I know I am not in their body type, which is conventional "wisdom", but the fact they can make stilettos "work" in public does give me ambition to do the same.
Speaking of body type, I saw a large girl the other day (wish I had the camera ready..LOL) downtown wearing 4" stiletto pumps. Even though "conventional wisdom" says she should not be wearing those shoes....she looked amazing!!
I don't know, maybe I just haven't been around here long enough. I just could never get the same buzz wearing, say, a 3" cuban heeled boot out and about as the shoes I own and love. To me, I might as well be wearing my regular "men's" shoes...

heelma

Understand. I think though that a link on this website to a series of pictures just showing the city is kind of off. Plus, you could crop the images to just the legs, couldn't you?

Tech

Nope, it isnt, regardless of what you wear, if it looks "out of place" with either yourstyle, bodytype, skin colour, height, width etc etc then you will look "out of place"

Roni and kneehighs make it work for 2 reasons, dress sense, and their body shape. If big people wear little clothes/thin clothes it does look out ofplace or un-natural, and the same goes for small/skinny people wearing huge baggy clothing, it drowns them and looks outta place.

Dress sense and body shape/tone/colour/height etc dude.... Co-ordination is the keyword here.

As for "labelling", we are all accepting of "who" we all are, and the interest's we share, but that doesnt mean we have to accept or approve your fashion choices, regardless of what they are. We all have opinions, and can freely express those...

If you came up with a crazy outfit that looked odd, or was kinda laughable, would you just want everybody to sit back and just accept it and to tell you it looks really good (As many already do here actually) or tell you their honest opinions?

Either way, does it really shouldnt matter, if your happy, then who cares?

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Stilettoscot

Richie,

You didn't answer this question:
nor give your thoughts on this point:


Just remember what I think I told you when I first joined:

"Not all of us can be fashion guru's, and not all of us wear heels for the same reasons."

BUT, I think your last sentence sums it up well...

Arctic

You know, I'm the last guy to dictate what anyone should or should not do.

But, there is still the environment to be considered. Certain things "work" better than others. That applies to fashion including heels, business, relationships, finances, engineering, media, and probably everything else as well. Also, certain things give more benefit than others. In other words, if you can do a little and get a lot, doing that little thing first is usually the wiser thing to do.

Now, how this applies stilettos and occasions like heelmeets is the following: the objective of most people here is pretty simple: "the ability to wear and enjoy high heels in public places without having to consider the opinions and reactions of other people". That ability depends on a few things:

1) technical ability (experience and practicality of the heels)
2) mindset (being convinced that wearing heels is really OK)
3) compatibility with commonly accepted norms

Stilettos are not a good match with 1 and 3. Hence you have to be VERY determined to make it work for you.

Other styles, like for example 4" cowboy boots, are less of an issue with 1 and 3. Because of fashion history there is almost no issue at all with 2, and the "ability to wear and enjoy" is a more achievable target.

Now, if your objective is not "to wear and enjoy high heels" but to "wear and enjoy stilettos" it becomes a matter of degree. If you enjoy wearing high heels a little and stilettos a lot, it is usually still a better "business case" to wear more conservative heels because of factor 1) and 3).

So, to sum up: it is a lot easier to achieve enjoyment of wearing wider high heels in public than to achieve enjoyment of wearing stilettos.

If you ONLY care about stilettos, well, that is kind of the same thing as ONLY wanting to drive a Ferrari F40 and refusing to step into all other sports cars. That's ok, but you have to realize that achieving that target is a lot harder than if you'd also enjoy a mere Porsche Carrera in the meantime you are working towards the F40.

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Arctic

1) I took those scenery pictures for my own enjoyment, as I think photography is fun and NYC is worth photographing
2) there are two channels on Share on Ovi, one for the heel related stuff (taken with my phone and uploaded on the spot for the people who were following online) and another channel for the scenery pictures where I dumped the SLR pictures later
3) considering the amount of off-topic crap that gets posted on this board, a single link to a photo sharing site for photos that were taken during the heel meet by a high heeled photographer, isn't too much of a stretch, or so I thought.

The pictures of the city were included for the purpose of giving people the impression of what kind of public environment tolerates 4" heels without any trouble whatsoever.

Sure, I could have. Editing pictures = time consuming and not making my life better. So I decided to do something else instead!

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heelma

I might have taken for granted that most folks here know how NYC looks. I live close by and go there quite often.
As I've written here many times, my experience with NYC is that people who do realize what shoes you wear give you a surprised look, but it never happened to me that I was publicly laughed at. It also depends on the shoe though. Overall, the city is quite tolerant, compared to rural towns or some places in Europe.