Gender related heel issues

Amanda Snake · 5th January 2008, 09:39

After having read some of the threads in here it's obvious to me that there are some gender related issues regarding wearing heels.
I have to say that I never saw a guy wearing heels myself before but I'm not one to be narrowminded. I don't see why guys shouldn't wear heels if they want to.
Sure it doesn't send out a very masculine signal but then guys are not 100% masculine anyway.

There's only one way to get it publicaly accepted and I'm sure your aware of that.

I do sense a bit of friction-jealousy-sexism here.
I read one post which suggested that it was women barring the way to social acceptance of male heel wearing. There may be something in that but not in my case.

I also notice that only 10.9 percent of members here are women.
Is that because you've offended them in some way or is it just that they don't fit here?.

A xx

lorriette · 5th January 2008, 10:33

Amanda, if I may comment on your last part, women in heels is regarded as the norm. While you may chat with friends on the latest styles, I would have thought the need to join a community, such as this, less important. This is illustrated in the type of posts found in the ladies only section. The guys NEED the re-assurance of the group.
I'm sure the majority of guys here would like even more women to post and comment, but sensitivity levels see some comments as negative, and that could give the ladies a feeling of not being welcome.
I think most of us would say -please stay, you're most welcome.

Nigel · 5th January 2008, 10:42

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Originally Posted by Amanda Snake

I also notice that only 10.9 percent of members here are women.
Is that because you've offended them in some way or is it just that they don't fit here?.
A xx

Its more a case that females on the whole don't like guys in heels, we have tried to enter female fashion forums in the past to gauge reactions and some of the comments were not very nice.

There are some female members that have been here for a long time though, a better class of woman than those with blinkers on in my opinion.

It is worth while remembering that not all guys wear heels, a lot of the members and guests here will be admirers, hence a higher ratio of males here.

again, welcome along.

Nigel.

Reg Press · 5th January 2008, 11:14

I wear Heels and love to see ladies in them as well. Must admit though they look better on ladies

Amanda Snake · 5th January 2008, 11:48

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Originally Posted by lorriette

I would have thought the need to join a community, such as this, less important. This is illustrated in the type of posts found in the ladies only section. The guys NEED the re-assurance of the group.
I'm sure the majority of guys here would like even more women to post and comment, but sensitivity levels see some comments as negative, and that could give the ladies a feeling of not being welcome.
I think most of us would say -please stay, you're most welcome.

Hi Loriette,
I only arrived here because it's called the high heel place and I have a fetish for heels. I had no real idea what went on here before joining.
If it's mainly a group of guys needing re-assurance in their heel interests
then all I can do is discuss and offer advice on wearing heels and bring with me some acceptance and understanding.

How do I find the ladies only section by the way?.

Nigel · 5th January 2008, 12:22

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Originally Posted by Amanda Snake

How do I find the ladies only section by the way?.

http://www.hhplace.org/discuss/girls/

johnieheel · 5th January 2008, 18:00

Quote:

Originally Posted by Amanda Snake

After having read some of the threads in here it's obvious to me that there are some gender related issues regarding wearing heels.
I have to say that I never saw a guy wearing heels myself before but I'm not one to be narrowminded. I don't see why guys shouldn't wear heels if they want to.
Sure it doesn't send out a very masculine signal but then guys are not 100% masculine anyway.

There's only one way to get it publicaly accepted and I'm sure your aware of that.

I do sense a bit of friction-jealousy-sexism here.
I read one post which suggested that it was women barring the way to social acceptance of male heel wearing. There may be something in that but not in my case.

I also notice that only 10.9 percent of members here are women.
Is that because you've offended them in some way or is it just that they don't fit here?.

A xx

I believe that most of the men here, if not all, would love to kick the word "gender" into outer space.
We are a very open minded group and would love to see more women with open minds like yourself come here to share there experiences and just to talk heels as normal women to men, men to men, women to women. In my opinion there is nothing sexist about it. Sure, we would like acceptance from the whole world but we know that will never happen so we take what ever we get and that in itself is a boost of confidence to help us just to be who we are and enjoy what we love. HEELS.
I, myself are enjoying your participation here very much.

Firefox · 5th January 2008, 21:18

There are more men than women who don't like the male heel wearing issue. Women are generally quite acceptive, but some men see it as the break down of perceived male dominence in society. They view gays or tv's in the same way. Thus they feel the need to shout out "poof or queer" because they see it as a threat to their own sexuality. Part of this is the perceived reinforcement of their own position among a pack of males and among males in society in general.

Women generally don't feel the need to discuss shoes in any great depth. They just get on with wearing them for the most part. We haven't done anything to discourage women here, indeed we have encouraged them. But the deeper aspects of shoes are not something that interest most women. If you were to go onto a site about high perfomance cars I'd be prepared to bet there would also be 90% blokes and 10% women.

Also you'll find some of the women here are TV's or TG's pretending to be women. You'll find the range of subjects discussed compleletely across the spectrum as well as the ususal fashion issues. Certain strange topics crop up over and over again. Damaging floors, getting stuck in mud, starting or driving cars wearing heels, heels in the snow etc etc. They're topics you'll rarely find in fashion blogs populated by genuine females.

Don't worry though, there are plenty of genuine females here, and the pretend ones are just as friendly. It's all part of life's rich tapestry.

Amanda Snake · 5th January 2008, 21:32

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Originally Posted by Firefox

There are more men than women who don't like the male heel wearing issue. Women are generally quite acceptive, but some men see it as the break down of perceived male dominence in society. They view gays or tv's in the same way. Thus they feel the need to shout out "poof or queer" because they see it as a threat to their own sexuality. Part of this is the perceived reinforcement of their own position among a pack of males and among males in society in general.

Women generally don't feel the need to discuss shoes in any great depth. They just get on with wearing them for the most part. We haven't done anything to discourage women here, indeed we have encouraged them. But the deeper aspects of shoes are not something that interest most women. If you were to go onto a site about high perfomance cars I'd be prepared to bet there would also be 90% blokes and 10% women.

Also you'll find some of the women here are TV's or TG's pretending to be women. You'll find the range of subjects discussed compleletely across the spectrum as well as the ususal fashion issues. Certain strange topics crop up over and over again. Damaging floors, getting stuck in mud, starting or driving cars wearing heels, heels in the snow etc etc. They're topics you'll rarely find in fashion blogs populated by genuine females.

Don't worry though, there are plenty of genuine females here, and the pretend ones are just as friendly. It's all part of life's rich tapestry.

Thanks for your analogy of the site Firefox.
I must say it's not what I'd expected.
It's an interesting window into male fascination for womens shoes.
I have to say I'm finding it interesting to be asked so many questions on the subject.
Apart from being entertaining it's nice to find others who share a fetish for footwear, male or female.

foxylady · 5th January 2008, 21:54

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Originally Posted by Amanda Snake

Thanks for your analogy of the site Firefox.
I must say it's not what I'd expected.
It's an interesting window into male fascination for womens shoes.
I have to say I'm finding it interesting to be asked so many questions on the subject.
Apart from being entertaining it's nice to find others who share a fetish for footwear, male or female.

Amanda,
as so many now already said in the previous threads. We male members have the need to talk about High heel Fashion and because we are not directly accepted in the community (maybe in the future, you never know...).
It is not like you girls that can talk about fashionina cofeebar. We have to talk about fooball and motorsports and other so called masculine things. If I would start talking about fashion in my local, they probably all will look at me with the expression of "what the heck is he talking about...."turn around and start talking again about the latest footbalmatch.

I do hope we can have some advice from you in further threads, I defenatly would like to have some. I am now training more or less for the 6" heels.

Where about in England do you live.

FL