male heelwearing WILL NEVER take off... unless...

TXT-1 · 5th September 2006, 10:00

this has been on my mind for ages... slowly building up tempo like an Iron Maiden song

But I will say what has to be said...

I am for all for freedom of speech, freedom to wear what YOU want, etc...

but unless you are a 5'5-5'9, <85kg guy then male heelwearing WILL NEVER take off

while there might be a few exeptions, W6ish, Shockqueen etc...

I seriously doubt that the wearing off (stilletto) heels by men will become common place...

On another note I am getting rather Disillusioned by HHplace...

we no longer have many female members (Where's Laurie, Missy, Candi cane, Jenny etc.)

we have Spam by the shit load.... Spam (email kind) is shit so no censorship there

if the forum owner was still interested in this site we could fix that problem...

however he has other things to do (apparently)

I'll give HHplace 3 months to fix the Spam thing and iff not To quote a certain cult 1979 movie (The Warriors) "I think I'll take off" (permanently in this case)

later,

TXT-1

Ozzard · 5th September 2006, 10:20

How you choose to behave and the decisions you take are clearly up to you - I hope you'd be willing to grant the rest of us the same privileges. I'd be interested in your reasons behind why you assert that something "WILL NEVER take off" - the bald assertion is likely to get many backs up.

I agree that more could be done about the general care and feeding of the board, but that's always a problem if the board owner can't take care of it. There are ways of doctoring a phpBB board to cut automated spam considerably, and they appear not to have been applied here; there are no ways of preventing humans registering for accounts and then spamming the board, in the same way that there are no ways of preventing trolls coming on. This board has some of the most willing and active moderation I've seen in terms of cleaning up the spam that gets through - but it'd be good to modify the code to dissuade the simpler spam bots. I'd be willing to put in some effort in that respect, but it would require a high level of access to the board and I suspect I'm too much of a newcomer to be considered trustworthy.

As a side note, does anyone have any figures for the traffic this board generates? I may have a cheap (free) hosting solution...

TXT-1 · 5th September 2006, 13:58

what you do in your own time is of your concern...
I'm too tall (5'11-6'1) to wear my "Avatars" (7" plat slides) in public anyway besides, I have NOT ever seen a guy in heels, (apart) from a handful of TV/CD/TS's around here

YES there is a difference: a guy wearing heels as a man and someone that is male appearing in public as a woman...

one thing about HHplace; it gives you a false sense of security: by reading the posts here one could almost think that the time of "men in heels" is close at hand, when it couldn't be further from the truth!

but when the REAL girls no longer visit here the truth can get skewed...

chris100575 · 5th September 2006, 16:57

Your avatars may not be suitable to wear in public TXT-1, but then I've never seen a woman wearing them either. I've worn heels in public a few times now and never had any adverse reactions that I was aware of.

FWIW I'm 6' tall, 200lbs and couldn't pass for a woman even if I wanted to. Last time I was out in heels I was wearing a pair of my Malicias with black jeans and t-shirt and a leather biker jacket. And you know what? It worked pretty well. I don't know if they have a stiletto heel strictly speaking, but it's pretty damn close. I agree that men in heels is probably never going to be a mainstream fashion, although I'd love it it if it was, but then I don't follow mainstream fashion anyway.

One thing is certain though, it'll never take off if none of us ever do it.

Chris

sscotty727 · 5th September 2006, 17:42

If your waiting for mass acceptance (as in the vast majority of men wearing heels or even high heels marketed and sold FOR men) then you are probably in for a long wait.

However, unless there is some new laws being passed about men not being allowed to wear heels or if your personally being harrased, then the only thing stopping you from wearing anything out is yourself. You might get looks or comments if you wore the heels in your avatar, but that is totally up to you and how you carry yourself.

I do wear heels EVERY day, however they happen to be wedge heels. They are what I am personally comfortable in and what my wife can accept (her opinion is the main one to me).

As far as complaints about the board go, something most of us take for granted here is this is a FREE website. Throwing stones at the owners and operators is much like being invited to be a guest in someones house and then criticizing everything about it.

Yes I am sick of all the spam just as you are, however, I am a guest here as well. The owners and operators of the board are aware of the spam and do what they can to take care of it. Other actions could be done, but they are in charge of the policy and reasons behind taking/not taking the action about it.

While I might like to see a more locked down place, I fully support and appreciate them and all they do to keep the site up and operational.

Scotty

Fog · 5th September 2006, 21:48

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Originally Posted by TXT-1

one thing about HHplace; it gives you a false sense of security: by reading the posts here one could almost think that the time of "men in heels" is close at hand, when it couldn't be further from the truth!

but when the REAL girls no longer visit here the truth can get skewed...

I agree; male heel wearing will never be mainstream, and this site could give you a false sense of security, but, if you're sensible you will keep it in context and know that. If you choose to go out in heels you're going out as an excentric, and accept that and have fun outside the mainstream. There are only a couple of thousand at the most who've ever contributed to this site. Someone here quoted their girlfriend saying "It's so rare you've got to find it on the internet". However, what I've found is that in this community there are a lot of very genuine and decent people. Some of them have daft opinions (in my view), but as stated above by Scotty, it's a free site. I'd rather have this free site than no free site.

sscotty727 · 5th September 2006, 21:56

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Originally Posted by fogborkenvv

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Originally Posted by TXT-1

one thing about HHplace; it gives you a false sense of security: by reading the posts here one could almost think that the time of "men in heels" is close at hand, when it couldn't be further from the truth!

but when the REAL girls no longer visit here the truth can get skewed...

I agree; male heel wearing will never be mainstream, and this site could give you a false sense of security, but, if you're sensible you will keep it in context and know that. If you choose to go out in heels you're going out as an excentric, and accept that and have fun outside the mainstream. There are only a couple of thousand at the most who've ever contributed to this site. Someone here quoted their girlfriend saying "It's so rare you've got to find it on the internet". However, what I've found is that in this community there are a lot of very genuine and decent people. Some of them have daft opinions (in my view), but as stated above by Scotty, it's a free site. I'd rather have this free site than no free site.

You shouldn't be using the board to gauge what is ok or not ok or to push you into directions you normally wouldn't go. I can attest though it is so easy to try to push yourself so you can share it with the board, I've too fallen into the trap more than once.

The main function of the board (atleast from my personal feelings) is one of "you are not alone in your feelings for heels". Once I accepted I wasn't some freak (well, atleast from the heeling standpoint, jury is out on everything else;), then it became easier for me to accept myself for who I am. As far as going out in heels, that evolved from what I found comfortable as well as what the wife could and couldn't accept.

Scotty

Guy N. Heels · 5th September 2006, 23:25

I see posts on this board practically every day from young men (12,13,14,15,16) as well as mature adults who seem to be expressing the same kinds of self-consciousness and misgivings I had when I first became interested in heels. These people both need and deserve some kind of support with an interest that, in itself, hurts no one and has no basis for moral judgement. I prefer to offer such support as best I can, as opposed to "throwing rocks".
I've never been "down under" and so I have no way of understanding some of the comments you've made. But in my personal experience - life is what you make of it. Whether you choose to wear heels or not is up to you. How your community responds to your choice is - believe it or not - largely up to you. But I do think it rather unfair to launch a huge invective against this board.

Shafted · 6th September 2006, 03:15

It's clear to me that although unorthodox some parts of the world are ready for men in heels. I'm sure that at the same time this doesn't mean the whole world is.

lorriette · 6th September 2006, 11:43

I agree that postings here can encourage guys to go that little bit further. On a personal level, I street heel, do get occasional funny looks, and suffer complaints from my wife if she thinks I overstep the mark. The seventies proved that when conditions are right, huge changes in accepted fashion can take place.
The case this week, of the british rapist, who stole the stiletto's of his victims, will, of course, lend argument to the narrow minded, anti-everything brigade.