maninkirt

Perhaps some of you might have read about my mishap in the genral fashion section on this site, damaging, scratching my boyfreind SUV.

Me I was crying though my boyfreind took this rather cool, telling me; "Its ok love, as long you´re ok, you didn´t get hurt, its ok."

Since that day I haven´t driven a car. I don´t want to. I don´t feel comfortable driving a car. Not my car and certainly not my boyfreind´s big SUV.
Don´t know whats going on in my head. Since started living en famme, I feel different, think different, doing things in a different way as I used to do. Driving a car is one such thing. Yes I know how to drive, I know how to drive in high heels but I don´t feel comfortable driving. Even my own car, a BMW Z3, I don´t feel up to drive it any more. Perhaps I will in the future but for now on my boyfreind is doing all the driving.
I seems to lost interest in this and also a bit of my confidance driving. I don´t know why for instace why I bought this BMW with a stick shift gear. I think an automatic shift car had been better for me having now.

I have try driving the BMW togheter with my boyfreind, my boyfreind tells I must try start again but nowadays, living the way I do or better saying, thinking and feeling the way I do now, en famme. It seemes I can´t get this
to work. I know how to but I just can´t get it working.
It seemes now that my brain is not made for this. I´ve been talking with my mum and my female freinds about this. Some of them understand me. Having the same problem driving a car, feeling the same as I do about this. I have to realize, I´m not the same person I was before.

My boyfreind tells me I need to start driving again, he keeps pushing me. I know he means well.
He tells me we can sell the SUV, he BMW, byuing a smaller car, an automatic shifted car. It sweet of him thinking this way. I know he´s love driving the BMW and his SUV and I don´t want to be the one having to take this dission.

Don´t know, perhaps this all sound weird to you but this is the way I feel. Can´t help it.

t-strap lover

I think you are suffering from post traumatic stress. You might talk to a Dr. about it. Also over time you will start to get over it and feel better about yourself. Take it from someone thats been there. Have a nice day, put on your highheels and relax.

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maninkirt

Thank you t-strap lover.

Guess you´re right. I hope so. I guess I might get over it. Pardon me, have you also have this thing happened to you.

Thank´s for your encouraging words. Yes I´m in my high heels right now. Have been in them all day. Just been back from lunch with my boyfreind. It was nice, we having a good time.
Are you in your high heels too?

t-strap lover

Yes, I have Post Traumatic stress. Mine was brought on from being in a war and having to cope with seeing too much death of my friends and others plus I was in a terrible explosion. I have to see a Dr. on a regular basis. I have learned to live with the nightmares of war but still hate to see anyone harmed in anyway.

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tightsnheels

Bubba136

It's like the old saying that "when a horse bucks you off, get up, dust yourself off, and get back on."

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johnieheel

When my dad taught me to drive semi trucks, we stopped after our run from L A Cal to Las Vegas and back to take the driving test in the semi.
The instructor had me pull up to the road and back up to see if I new how.
We were pulling double trailers so I had never backed up before. My dad dropped on in the street and pulled around so I could begin the test. He gave me a few quick pointers and I was doing real good until I backed into the car port at the dmv and did some pretty good damage. Needless to say, that was the end of the testing for the day.
Went back the next week , drove around the block, didn't miss a gear, wasn't asked to back up, ! and passed with flying colors.
Drove truck for over 25 years.
Like Bubba said, dust it off and get back on.

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Guy N. Heels

I still remember when my old girlfriend had a mishap in her car. She was very upset so I had to try and offer a few pointers on how to avoid that particular type of situation. Still, she never talked about not driving anymore or anything like that.

I have never seen Sweden, although I'd like to; but America is a pretty big country. A good driver will need about a week to drive from New York to California and pair of drivers can do it in about 4 days. So you won't get very far over here without the ability to drive. Over here a car and the ability to drive is pretty important. That's why even if you have a little bump, you need to get back in the car and keep driving.

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maninkirt

Thank´s for your support, your encouragment.

t-strap lover: I see why you had a post traumatic stress, I understand. I sincerely hope you are feeling much better now. I guess this is a thing one never forget. Hope you feeling better now.

tightsnheels: Guess you must had felt the same as me, doing the spin with the car. I understand you must have been shaken up quite badly.
You didn´t want to drive away from there. Me too I didn´t want to drive from the place either but I had to. I was alone together with my mum in the car. I didn´t want to drive and niether my would my mum. I had to drive.
Yes I was crying, I was shaking, just like you. Wiching I had my boyfreind there with me so he could drive. Wiching I never had driven the SUV at all.
I must have looked awful coming home to my boyfreind that evening after all the crying. I just trow my self in his arms coming home.
I know you´re right and so are my boyfreind, you both telling me to get behind the wheel again. My boyfreind tells me I can do it, I can handle the stick shift too. He tells me, a bit like you, we should go for a long drive this weekend, me driving.
Thanks once again.

Guy N. Heels: Yes I know I need to get back driving, I know. My boyfreind telling me too.
Even if Sweden is a small country yes a car is a good thing to have. Yes I know, it would be so much easier for me if I started to drive again.
Yes I know, I could take my car to the office, go shoping on my way home and not having my boyfreind giving me a lift every morning, picking me up after work, though its very nice he does, it would save us both time if I get back driving again. As things are now if my boyfreind is working overtime or out of town or something I had to take the bus home, doing my shopings on my way home.
Yes it would be better if I got back driving again but please guys, I geuss I need some more time before I do, thats all.
I can tell you though, standing waiting for my bus home, in my high heels carring all my carry-away-bags, takes a bit of an effort.

Once again, THANK`S ALL FOR YOUR SUPPORT!

Perhaps I accept my boyfreind´s and tightsnheels suggestion, me my boyfreind and me going out for a drive this weekend.

maninkirt

I was talking with my boyfreind just now. He´s doing fine, he saying "Hello" to you all.
Its been a busy day so far. He´s busy, I´m busy too so we coulden´t make it for lunch today.

Just wanted to talk to him. Had to tell him I have made up my mind, yes I will take up driving again. Don´t know if I´m going to make it but I will giv it a try.
Guess you guys here has got me to start thiking about driving again.
My boyfreind was realy pleased to hear this.
Telling me; "Its great love, you can do it, I´m sure you can love!" I don´t know just yet, hope I can do it.

My boyfreind is going to pick me up after work, we going shoping in the big shoping center, our weekly food shoping.

Then we´re thinking, planning going looking for, shoping jeans and boots to us both. It will be very fun, going out shoping with my boyfreind.