Vanity

Hi there!
I'm a bit low since my beloved step-father passed away, and I need some encouragement.
My thread on "for gals" just went crazy and I'm seriously thinking of leaving this forum.
I'm a true High Heel woman but not a fetishist as many on this forum. It's just a "thing" for me like for many other women. I just wish that men could accept that, they are obsessed and it makes it a lot harder. They can't keep the distance, if you know what I mean.
Anyhow, keep up your good work! :(

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Arctic

I'm sorry to hear about your stepfather.

This is what puts me off as well. I started to visit this forum less and less when it got more fetish and transgender oriented. I have absolutely nothing against people struggling with a gender identity problem (current or past), nor with people who have a fetish for whatever - I even feel sympahty for them, but for me shoes are what they are: great to look at and to walk in. Beautiful, interesting, challenging, etc. but that is where it stops for me.

I just don't want the shoe/sex association to be made, because it doesn't apply to me personally. I hate the thought that people would think that I am interested in shoes (boots, to be more precise) because of what they apparently do to some people.

There are lots of people on the board for who shoes is just an interesting "thing", but they then have to tolerate that the whole thing is dragged into marginality. My rule of thumb has always been that we should try to avoid things (pictures mainly) which are not suitable for doing in public. Things like extreme ballet heels, patent thigh high boots with latex micro skirts, foot trainers etc. Nobody wears those to go shopping, so I would classify them as over the line.

I don't have a solution for it, and I am defenitely not pointing any finger at the moderators, who do a superb job. But I am hoping that the board some day shifts back to more fashion oriented subjects. Then, my wife would perhaps want to participate too. If I'd show her this board now, she'd immediately conclude that it's for perverts, even though only a small percentage actually is of that nature.

Maybe we should establish www.hhfetishplace.org or something along those lines and kindly ask those people to do their thing there.

My 2c...

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Heelfan

Hello Vanity!

I'm very, very sorry to hear about your family bereavement.

However, regarding "For the Gals" - cheer up! I don't think it was a fetish argument - just a misunderstanding between to of the forum's keenest heel-wearers, and they've now patched it up! These little tiffs happen from time to time, but for goodness sake don't let it styop you from treating is to your excellent postings!

I and lots of others appreciate you!

Cheerfully yours, Heelfan

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Lucy

Hi Vanity! Please stay on here with us girls. I know you're understandbly depressed, but keep your chin up and hang on in here with us.

Anne-Louise and I have both put postings on your "For the Girls" thread which I hope will encourage you to stay! We're your friends!

Love, Lucy

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xaphod

A bit of a rant on behalf of the girls.

Why is it that some guys keep trying to hit on girls who are just out there minding their own business?

There is the girls' forum for the girls, but what do we find, lots of the guys on the board trying to engage them in conversation there .... post us a picture and do you wear 6" heels seem to feature fairly early in the chat. What I think the girls' forum should be is the sort of chats women have in the powder room away from the guys.

There were a couple of Italian girls who posted on the board a while back, but they soon stopped posting when they started a private email conversation, no doubt due to the tedious hassle they got from the guys here, like two girls having a drink at a bar trying to repel the local 'Don Juan'.

Why can't the guys enjoy the company of the few women who post here without there being a covert sexual agenda ????

Vanity, I'm sorry to hear of your loss .... been there a couple of years ago. I'm trying to do my bit to keep the 'dribbling little perverts' at bay, so try to stay with us.


Xa

bobsmith

Hi Vanity,

I know what you mean... some people here can be a little over the top. Everyone has there own personality and reason for liking heels, and I personally like to see a lady wearing heels but don't like so much the idea of men wearing heels. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that, just that that's my preference.

We hope you don't leave because of some minority elements...

B.

Fred

Hi Vanity

I am sorry to hear about your stepfathers recent death.

The vast majority of men here truly appreciate your contributions. As you say in one of your last posts real women who wear heels are very special. You will be sadly missed.

All the Best

Fred

Firefox

I'm kind of with Bert on this, or at least that's my personal opinion.

I'm more into the shoes and the styles rather than some sexual thing or turning it into a dating forum and I can see how frustrating it might be for someone who wants to discuss shoes, to suddenly become the centre of attention and face all sorts of questions not related to their shoes, even turning away from the subject into paths they'd rather not visit.

However, we did set out to be a broad church and there are many different places to post.

So, all I could say to everyone, is to be as sympathetic as possible to the wishes of other members with regard to the place you are putting your message. That's not an easy thing to do on text but I'm sure people will read this thread and get a better idea what others on the board are thinking.

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TXT-1

Vanity, sorry to hear of your loss, loosing a family is always hard

I too agree with Bert aswell! I originally joined HHplace to meet other "heelies" because I was confused (I felt like I was alone..) not to have some idiot overuse the word "slut", have two of our REAL girl posters leave/threaten to leave...

I'll be keeping an eye on this church and hope that it doesn't get so narrow that there isn't anywhere to post (sorry Firefox I had to Ste.. .."Borrow" that one) because if it does I'm out of here!

Later,

TXT-1

shyguy

Yeah follow suite here too, not too interested in the fetish stuff. I do find the tv/ts stuff interesting, and I guess its another facet of liking womens shoes but going further.
I agree though, the women here should not be made to feel like sex objects because of their liking for heels or any other item they care to wear. Because someone wears a sexy outfit doesn't make them available, nor should we assume they will enjoy discussing their sexual orientation or preferences with us.
The whole sluts thing is sailing close to the edges of acceptability, but that is up to the mods to decide how to treat it, I do not like censorship, but it has its place .
I hope I have behaved with integrity and not upset anyone here, and if I do, I apologise. Its a great forum with fantastic members, and its sad to lose any of them. I have found through these forums that I am not alone / a freak or anything else, just a man who enjoys what most refer to as ladies shoes. Thank you all for showing me that.

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