iggy_ze

Hi,

I have worn the attached to go shopping in the evening and at weekends but never had the nerve to wear these to the office. At home my other half is quite happy for me to wear up to 5in heels and boots and given an appropriate environment they even get worn to go out.
Working for a very large company there is a strict anti discrimination policy and many people wear jeans and t-shirts to work, although there is no male cross-dressing and many women of course wear trousers. Some of the younger guys wear earrings, something else I would also like to do to the office.
It would be wonderful to break out and wear either of these pairs to work but I just can't face coping with the comments.

Ian

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johnieheel

What I do is 1st, let every body know in a sorta of humours way that I wear heels and get sort of a self survey of opinions from guy's and gal's to let you know what kind of atmosfear your dealing with. It will be mixed I'm sure but for the most part, most will say if thats what you like, oh well. Then go from there so it isn't a total shock to them when they see you in heels.

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guy

When you do, go with the second pair. They just look nicer.

Celso999

Hi,

I have a similar pair as the first one and I can assure you that, when used with jeans nobody will notice since they are quite unisex.

Do the following: go to work with your normal shoes and take the first pair with you in a shopping bag. Change them when already seated in your desk. Make small adventures to the bathroom or just around your workplace. You will graduately get confidence as you will see that nobody really looks to our feet to see what we are wearing.

I always use black socks in order to disguise the somewhat feminine shape of the shoe upper part. I did that in my office and it worked fine. Once a male co-worker noticed the 8 centimeters heel and just said: "Hey, those are nice boots!"

Good Luck,
Celso.

loswabs

Hi Ian

Is it heels and earrings you want to wear or is there more you want to wear? A skirt maybe? If not, I think there's two possible approaches.

First, the "can I blag it?" approach. How tall are you? If your under, say 5' 10", you could say you're feed up with being short and wanted to be taller without wearing horrible stacked shoes and you chose them with your wife. Or maybe say you've got high arches and your foot doctor (sorry, can't rememeber the proper noun) suggested you wear high heels to compensate, again you chose them with your wife.

Alternatively, you could say nothing, wear the pair in your second picture on dress-down Friday and say nothing until you're asked. Apart from maybe, you're wife chose them. I'd do this.

Either way, they can't discriminate against you, though I'd just check your contract and maybe seek advise if you meet customers or suppliers as you don't want to fall victim of having been let got because you compromised the company's image type bull. Also, is wearing heels likely to jeopardise the safety of you or others in you working environment, e.g. they're not a good idea in a warehouse or other physically active area.

Hope this helps, good luck

las

Chiropodist!

thedesigner

ive worn heels to work for ages, and once people get over the initial shock and pointing, they ignore it. Dont worry !! Good luck !!

Bernheels

I agree 100% - go for it with the 2nd pair - they are hot!

Thighboots2

The 2nd pair are a bit high for a first outing to work, also the heel is a little too narrow. I would go with the first pair ( which is what I did when I first started wearing to work as I had a similar pair). The stability of the large block heel is not to be scoffed at in the early days of being "out". Also with the wider toebox and the right length black trousers, they will look good too. They appear to be leather so your feet will breath nicely as well.

The 2nd pair are from Evans if I am not mistaken, so are PU and not leather. All day in PU shoes and your feet will not thank you. Save them for evenings out wearing bootflare jeans.

One downside of trousers cut for men is the leg cuff is usually too small to sit nicely with a heeled shoe. Simple answer is to aquire a pair of ladies trousers which are lighter and far more comfortable to wear, and are designed to wear with heels (naturally). The downside is little or no pocket facility and you must be left handed for a trip to the gents. Now WHY do ladies garments do up the other way to mens?

TB2

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yujie

I wear it alot to work. All of my pants cover the heel perfectly. Sometime I get comments from female co-workers. Most of the time its more comfortable than my men's shoe.