JeffB

I'm sure this is going to sound downright treasonous, but over the last month or so, I've had absolute no desire or interest to wear heels, either in public or even in private.

While opportunities have abounded over the last few weeks as the weather has warmed up, I just can't bring myself to go through what I've viewed (right or wrong) in my mind as the "hassle" associated with wearing heels: putting together an appropriate outfit for whatever shoes I choose to wear, then going to a place (mall or store) for an outing, not to mention having to deal with the reactions of the public at large. It's just been easier, more comfortable and convienient to throw on my sloppiest jeans, a wrinkled polo shirt and sneakers and head out. Feels better too.

To be perfectly honest, I have no idea what brought this on, maybe it's nothing more than just springtime laziness, or maybe I overdid it again after returning to the passion back in December, and this behavior is some sort of subconscious governor, reining me back in, I don't know, nor do I know if this is a temporary situation. Perhaps I'll return to what passes for "normal" for me soon, perhaps not. In any event, I'll keep everyone appraised of what goes on with me.

pumplover

I'm sure this is only temporary. Happens to me all the time. Sometimes, I just put on a pair of shorts and heels, does not have to be a full outfit all the time

johnieheel

Just relax and don't worry about it or think in to it to much and things will go back to normal soon.

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jmc

It seems to happen to all of us, the desire ebbs and flows. It is only temporary though, a couple of months go by and we want to get into the heels again.

This seems to be the reason there are so many "purge and re-stock" postings around here. Our desire wanes, we get rid of our stash, the desire returns, and we stock up again. A better idea is to pack up your favorites and store them away somewhere so you can break them back out when you want to. It is even quite a rush to slip them on again after a hiatus.

This may be an opportunity to thin your stock if you have a few pairs that you don't like so well. But be careful -- when the desire returns it does so with a vengeance!

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Guy N. Heels

DITTO! Relax and go with the flow. A few months back we had another guy saying much the same thing. So what?

Stop and think on it; if you were forced to eat your favorite food 3 times a day, 7 days a week, how long would it take before you got disinterested? Shoes and fashion are the same way. You eventually reach burnout. So put the heels back in the closet and go yer way. The day will come when you'll want those shoes back, I guarantee.

Live long and prosper.

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Dr. Shoe

It seems to me that you take the heel wearing too seriously, that's why. You mention putting together an outfit to go with them and then going on a special outing in order to wear them. Doing it like this is a hassle, that's why I don't do Tara mode too often.

It's fine why not leave the heels for special occassions, social functions and the like where you'd be dressing up a bit anyway and have somewhere to go?

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utahnylon

HI Jeff,

This happens to me also, I've been wearing "girl" things for over 30 years. I don't worry about it any more. It just comes and goes. Preference is a hard thing to understand. Just like food, music, or anything else the desire comes and goes. Sometimes I go through shopping frenzies, at other times I could care less. When I talk to my female friends they feel the same in a lot of ways. At times they like to dress up, and other times they just feel like doing as little as possible. I've just come to accept this and know that I'll want to wear something cute soon enough.

Take care,

Len

Thighbootguy

JeffB -

I suggest you don’t judge things by the standard of “normal”, rather use the concept of “comfortable”.

There are days when I am comfortable walking into a men’s room wearing thigh boots with stiletto heels and a short skirt and these are other days when I don’t feel comfortable going out of the house with knee boots with block heels worn under my jeans. There have been days when I’ve hit all of the points in between those two extremes. This board tends to present a one sided image because I don’t often post about "not feeling like wearing my thigh boots", but it happens. I suspect that even by the standards of the folks on this board I don’t fall into the “normal” category” but I do fall into the “comfortable” category. (I also suspect that, on this board, "normal" is an oxymoron.)

I still recommend the full length mirror test. Look at yourself in a full length mirror and be sure you are comfortable presenting the image that is looking back at you. If you are, go for it. Is that image always going to be the same thing? I doubt it. Neither will your reaction to the same image be the same every day. Most of us change from day to day, week to week, month to month. And then some of us just get old and lazy.

Variety is one of the things that keeps us from getting board. I don’t always eat the same foods, watch the same TV programs, or wear skirts and boots. Our tastes, feelings, desires, pleasures do change from time to time.

The real question is why we change. It might be environmental pressure (the people around us), it might be social pressure (the world around us). It might be the chemical balance of our bodies changing (not a bad thing, its responsible for us getting hungry or thirsty) or it might be getting old and lazy.

My advice is be aware of the change but don’t worry about it unless you start to see extremes. And... don’t sell you show collection just yet. Remember, things change.

shrimper

Why is it we think there's something wrong when things change? Life is all about cycles, ebbs and flows, ups and downs , ons and offs.
If your passion cycle is down now that's OK. It will come raging back again. Just enjoy things as they are now. Taking a break allows it to be fresh when it appears again.

crotchboots-m

not a problem,i see no reason for anyone to apoligize for not wearing heels anymore than i should for wearing them.