Shopping for heels: try them on? - Page 17

Bernheels · 26th September 2007, 00:49

Hi there-
Thanks for the quick response - I just bought another 3 pair of heels today. I love the new styles out there and I reall feel they are targeting guys wearing hish heels.
I love the pictures you sent.
Thanks

muddypaws · 27th September 2007, 14:30

Quote:

Originally Posted by jhs

Hello,
I feel uncomfortable fitting heels in a regular shop. In a dedicated fetish shop or a transvestite shop I have no trouble. I purchased the greater part of my pumps through the internet, after checking by telephone or email what to expect of the fit.

Greetings Hans

I fully understand your feelings. I still get a "flutter" whenever I try on in shops, but I still carry on and do it. No-one in 30 years has complained. Quite the contrary, only ever helpful. On one occasion I had two indentical pairs, except for colour and heel style! I could not make up my mind which, so I asked the two assistants, they said why not take both? So I did. It was a closing down sale, and the two pairs cost me £5.00 I did not beleive them. I drove home - 125 miles with one of each on, changing over on the way. I still have one of each, the other one of each have hit the BIN. They don't last for ever.
Don't hesitate .....Do it! It's good for you.

Muddypaws

jhs · 30th September 2007, 00:43

Thank you for your kind peptalk, Muddy Paws. I know that this reluctancy is between my ears. Who will remember me after I left the shop? I remember the very first time in my life I bought heels, in 1969 or so. A small shop in The Hague, the female assistent was not even surprised. I tried to fit, the shoes were too small. Nevertheless I was so impressed of my "courage" I bought them.

greetings Hans

marhil711 · 30th September 2007, 05:48

I can only second all that was said. The fear is only in your head. Knowing that, I still get nervous every time. Otherwise just buying without trying them on first may leave you with a shoe that doesn't fit propperly. Been there, done that....

loveheel · 30th September 2007, 13:51

You should keep in mind that sales people that have worked in the store for a while have likely had men before try on women's shoes. Whenever I get to chat with the store manager I often bring up the question of whether they regularly have men buying shoes and the answer is always yes. My guess is that there are a lot of men buying women's shoes, but few that wear them outside.
You only get the startled reaction from the new sales people.

B-booted · 1st October 2007, 02:04

You can get a startled reaction from the new sales assistant. With those who have worked for longer it can go the other way. I was in Nine West the other day, just browsing when the sales assistant inquired if she could help. I was happy just browsing but she said "If you want to try on any boots just l e t ..." and she trailed off.

Unfortunately I wasn't quick enough to take her up on the offer of the boots I was looking at. Didn't want to buy them but it could have been fun!

want-hh · 2nd October 2007, 04:57

Today I went into two Nine West shops and tried on a pair of boots in each. Sales women didn't have a problem with that.
At Macys I asked for a size 11 and the woman said "you are lucky, Nine West runs up to size 11". I replied "I know, that's why I am here" (no problem there)
After that I went into a payless. Sales women seemed to have no problem, but another buyer (woman) seemed to be a bit affraid. She didn't leave though, she went on shopping, but at a prudent distance. Haha!!!!

Celso999 · 26th November 2007, 20:01

In big magazines, where they carry men and women shoes and you can pick what you like and try by yourself, I just take the shoe box to the men's side seats and try the shoes there.

In small women's shoe stores, where it's always full of women trying them on, I buy only if they have size 12 US, without trying them.

radiodave · 26th November 2007, 21:21

Probably the only remotely negative experience was trying on a pair of boots in Macy's (Kaufmann's back then), and when I asked if they had my size, the sales lady looked at them, then looked at me with a look like "you aren't really going to try those on, are you?", so I looked back with a look like "yeah I'm going to try them on, and what of it?". Nobody else gave any notice when I tried them on, and when I got back to the counter the same lady asked if they fit OK.

I'd say that's the only exception though, and all other times, the sales folk (men and women) are fine with it. Usually they smile, make sure they fit well, and seem just as helpful as if I was in the men's department buying a pair of loafers. Occasionally they bring out a pair and there's a brief confusion because they think "she" will be trying them on, but I say straight up that they are for me, and they are just fine with that. Some even make positive comments and seem intrigued by a guy buying "women's" shoes. As for other shoppers, a few may have glanced, but nobody seems to give it much thought.

26th November 2007, 22:20

I buy my heels from e-bay as I,m a size 10uk and I like Heels above 5" which shops in the uk don't often do. I once bought a pair in clarks for fancy dress. Size 8, very tight fitting had to throw them in the bin when I got home!, but no one took any notice of me trying the heels on in the shop.