BobHH

I have sometimes wondered why I am often more comfortable talking with women rather than men. It is easier to talk about a variety of subjects with many women, and more fun. I'm not into dirty jokes, bathroom humor, professional basketball or hockey, which I find too many men are. Yes, I am a sensitive person. And yet there are fewer women in my business (aviation) and I enjoy it with men.

My wife was a sports fan - baseball, football, golf, track and field among others, as am I. Our sons were both athletes in school. We shared many interests and liked always being together.

Yes, part of wearing heels is to experience what women do, at least in the beginning. It feels good. It still amazes me that they are so accepted on women but taboo on men. No sense in that. Of course, I don't think there is that much awareness or sentient thinking around. I guess many people like to fit into comfortable slots and not face up to anything upsetting or threatening other than ignore it or attack it.

We usually use the term fashion freestyling to signify shoes, but it really applies to anything out of the mainstream. Look at Star Magazine's photos of the celebrities at New Years (on the Internet). The women are usually quite well dressed, but too many men are in ragged jeans and ratty T-shirts, and generally look crummy. I suppose that could be called freestyle. If you are rich or a celebrity you can get away with that. An ordinary guy would be thrown out or at least asked to leave.

Lesbianism, from Lesbos, usually signifies sexual relationships. So, I don't think it applies that much here.

DandyDude

Actually, the term "lesbian" as we know it today started as a name a certain group of literary women called themselves. It was more about Sappho's literariness rather than sexuality, if anything she was what we would now call bisexual. "Gay" used to be used to describe both sexes of homosexuals. Let's say I got it "straight" from the horse's mouth.

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dr1819

For the record, I'm genetically straight, a psychological lesbian, emotionally intergendered, and a practicing anti-transvestic, non-crossdressing, non-freestyling fashion non-conformist.

Wow. I'm sure that spun your brains. It did mine!

Put simply, I'm a guy who identifies as a guy, likes football, sports, racing, but who is more comfortable with the holiday discussions among the females, who enjoys skirts and heels, but not appearing as a woman, and who wishes that the terms "skirt" and "heels" weren't contemporarily synonomous with women's fashion, but rather equally open to men's fashion.

That doesn't stop me from wearing either, and it's refreshing to find that most females (not so much the males) rapidly adjust during airline flights and within minutes we're not talking about the skirt or heels I'm wearing but about schoolboard policy, women's rights, Congressional law, landscape architecture, or whatever else floats their boat.

It's the women who, by far, are the most agile with respect to getting over the external acoutrements and getting down to brass tacks!

The men usually freeze up, unless I provide icebreakers they're used to, such as discussing football scores.

WhyNotMenToo

Boy did you hit it on the head, this is me.
Specifically, a "male lesbian" is a heterosexual man who wishes
that he had been born a woman, but who (even if he had been a woman)
could only make love to another woman and never to a man.

dr1819,
I like the way you think, but football and sports, I hate, but as you said and I quote "but who is more comfortable with the holiday discussions among the females, who enjoys skirts and heels, but not appearing as a woman, and who wishes that the terms "skirt" and "heels" weren't contemporarily synonomous with women's fashion, but rather equally open to men's fashion." Aman to that brother!!! Ho! thats a great look how may I fined a skirt that you are showing in your picture where can I get one? and from what I can see the boot look great.

dr1819

Glad we think alike!

Try Tall Girl

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JeffB

Thanks for the link! So many resources! I'll have lots of fun checking them out!

azraelle

that is so autobiographical. Thanks kneehighs, and dr1819 as well.

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