Wearing high heels but..

Tommy · 29th June 2005, 16:18

Hi everyone. I'm a 15 year old boy, and I just love high heels. I want to wear some high heels, but no single pair of shoes fits my feet ( the shoes of my mother off course ). I'm scared. I think the people will laugh at me because I'm a youngster who wants to buy high heels. And I'm afraid too that I never can wear high heels, becuase I have big feet. Are there some shops in Flandres ( Belgium ) who makes special womenshoes etc.. and who can answer me what I should do with this problem ? pls help me.
tomdekeyser1337@hotmail.com

Dr. Shoe · 29th June 2005, 16:40

What size are you?

Dougal · 29th June 2005, 16:43

hello tommy. i've been wearing heels since i was thirteen. So don't worry because you are young. I think most of us on here have been wearing heels or had the urge to since a young age. I think it's something you are born with, and you can either embrace the feeling or try and supress it, but it tends to have a funny way of creeping back up on you all the time!!!

Tommy · 29th June 2005, 17:57

Well, I really don't know what size.. I always have been wearing skateshoes. These shoes are allways bigger than the size of a " normal " shoe. But the shoes I have, are 47 ( I think nr. 11 or 12 in American size ). The most women shoes are not so big I guess. And I have big feet. The shoes are mostly too small... And I'm so unhappy about that :(

Dawn HH · 29th June 2005, 18:27

Tommy:-)

There is nothing that can be done about shrinking the size of your feet as we are born with genes that determine what size our body parts will be and that's unchangable. Let me belay your fears...you CAN be fitted with and enjoy wearing women's high heels. It sounds like you are just starting out in the wearing of heels and there is a wealth of people and advise here on the Forum to help you out. You are definitely in the right place and most, if not all, of us started out at a very young age to wear heels. I started when I was 12 years old and at 70 I am thoroughly enjoying wearing heels yet. There are a lot of guys on this Forum with feet a lot bigger than yours and they eventually are able to obtain high heeled shoes for themselves. You are definately not alone in this and you are among a very friendly bunch of people world-wide. Welcome to the Forum.
Cheers---

Dawn HH

Blacksheep · 29th June 2005, 20:57

Hi Tommy welcome to the forum,
If you wish to be descrete in your buying, try EBay, you will find a wide selection. try to select wide fit to suit your feet, if they are too narrow, they willbe uncomfortable on you. I started wearing heels at age 13. as the otehrs have said, your desire it doesnt go away. im 53 and am slowly getting the courage ( due to this site) to wear in public. So your not alone and you hve come to the right place for help.

Cheers
Blacksheep

chris100575 · 29th June 2005, 22:22

Hi Tommy, I've been wearing high heels for as long as I can remember starting with my Mother's when I was small enough for them to fit me. I think I was 16 or 17 when I bought my first pair of my own.

Firstly, you don't need to be scared, no one in the shop will laugh at you. The staff just want to make a sale, and you won't be the first guy they've seen buying women's shoes. I've even tried pairs on in the shop with no problems, as have many other guys on here.

Finding a pair to fit you might be difficult, but here in the UK there are a few stores that sell women's shoes in large sizes so you might be able to find one near you. There are many places on the internet where you could buy high heels to fit you, but you might struggle if you don't have a credit card.

Good luck, Chris

micha · 30th June 2005, 00:11

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Originally Posted by Tommy

Well, I really don't know what size.. I always have been wearing skateshoes. These shoes are allways bigger than the size of a " normal " shoe. But the shoes I have, are 47 ( I think nr. 11 or 12 in American size ). The most women shoes are not so big I guess. And I have big feet. The shoes are mostly too small... And I'm so unhappy about that :(

Welcome to the forum, Tommy, here my advice!

There are three problems for guys who like wearing high heels

- the body height: that's a minor problem if we aren't talking about doors. My normal size is 1.90 m, with heels 2 meters or more. But my 18 years old german-french nephew has to live with a normal height of 2.05 meters ....

- the size of your feet: do you really have EU-47-feet at an age of 15? Male US shoes in size 11/12 aren't normally EU 47. To my experience these US sizes should be converted to EU 45/46. My recommendation is to look for EU 46 / female UK 12 or female US 14 in the internet (especially american, german and british ebay) or in oversize shops. I can't imagine that you have any chance in the female section of a normal shoe shop

- the fear to wear them on the street: to my opinion a solvable problem because you will find here a lot of guys with the same problem. It's always helpful to know that you aren't the only "idiot" in the whole wide world. In your place I would be careful with wearing heels in school. Eventually at a halloween party or at carnival ....

I hope to have helped you a little bit

:D micha

Painter · 30th June 2005, 02:56

Hi, again, Tommy :D

I would second Micha's advice about wearing heels in school: being different in this way can make you a target. So wearing heels at some costume party is a smart way to begin.

I wear a woman's 13W shoe and am listing the addresses of online stores that I've bought shoes from. Even if you don't buy, it's very satisfying to see what is available to a big fellow like yourself.

Happy browsing!

http://www.bigandbeautifulshoes.com/casualshoes.html
http://www.lingeriesexylingerie.com/knot5sanwleg.html
http://www.womenshoesplus.com/
http://www.store.nordstrom.com/
http://www.payless.com/
http://www.pierresilber.com/classic1.html
http://www.sexyshoes.com/index.html
http://sole2heel.com/index.html

Painter

Dawn HH · 30th June 2005, 03:23

Tommy:-)

Now you can see what I was refering to...there is a lot of help available and a lot of people willing to provide that help, like the list of links from Painter where he has bought shoes. This is a course in "Heel Wearing- 101". Start taking notes.
Cheers---

Dawn HH