Desire to buy own heels - Help Needed

Patent Heels · 4th January 2004, 21:53

Hi there, I would welcome your collective experience and guidance on a couple of matters.

First of all by way of background, I am a 41 year old married guy who has loved high heels for over 20 years, and I now feel ready to buy my own pair of black patent pumps. In the 80s my wife used to wear high heeled shoes all the time, and I guess that was enough for me then. She is slowly rediscovering heels again with the latest fashions, though over the years I have desired to wear my own shoes.

My wife knows about my love for high heels, though she is not aware of my desire to buy heels for wear around the home. Therefore I cannot buy over the internet and have them delivered to my home, so I am seeking your help for locating 'friendly' shoe stores in the Yorkshire area where I can buy my shoes (size 9) without feeling too embarrassed. I am not certain that high street stores carry size 9s? Are there any other options available?

The second request for help is a little more complicated, and I seek your wise counsel. Basically, I would like to wear my heels (once bought) for my wife, i,e. as part of our love making. I am not sure how she would react, any help on how to go about this would be much appreciated.

Apologies for the length of posting, but thanks in advance for your guidance.

Pete

Dr. Shoe · 4th January 2004, 23:06

You need to tell her.

You could start by saying you always wondered what it was like to wear heels.

Bubba136 · 5th January 2004, 02:21

Dr. Shoe is right. You need to tell her about you wanting your own heels and ask for her help in purchasing a pair for you. You said she already knows about your love for high heels so the battle is half over. If she does agree to help you, then you won't have any problem wearing them round the house or for any other purpose.

Heelfan · 5th January 2004, 10:26

Hello PH!

Best of luck with your activities! Regarding your question re. finding size 9 heels in Yorkshire, I will try and help, been a very long-standing size 9 street-heeling guy, although I live in Bristol.

1) RETAIL CHAINS SHOPS STOCKING SIZE 9 HIGH HEELS. These firms seem to have nationwide coverage, so I hope you have a branch near you:

BRANTANO (stocks up to size 10)

BARRATTS Most branches have a "Tall & Small" department going up to 9s and 10s.

EVANS LTD. Goes up to 9s and 10s, but smaller branches do clothes only and not shoes.

FAITH Mostly stops at size 8, but includes size 9 in a few selected styles (like the sexy "Sabrina", "Sky 2" etc.). However, be warned thaty their "9s" run a bit small.

RIVER ISLAND Only goes up to size 8, but these are worth trying because some of their size 8s run a bit large and fit my size 9 foot. (Styles like "Deb", "Blower" etc.)

2) CUSTOM FACTORIES Failing the above, you can get your requirements specially-made or sometimes off-the-shelf from The Little Shoe Box or Leatherworks (both London) or Hayway (North).

3) SPECIALIST SHOPS FOR LARGE LADIES SIZES

MAGNUS Chiltern Street, London. Sizes approx 8 to 12 (Catalogue available).

ELEPHANTFEET, Brixton, London. Similar policy to Magnus but different selection.

BIGFOOT DIRECTORY, Croydon. Similar, but selection shown on their website as well as to personal callers.

NINE TO ELLEVEN, Surrey/Hampshire border. Similar with their selelection on their website. When using your search engine, note the double "L" in "Elleven".

In the old days I found it virtually impossible to find size 9 high heels, but having now accrued the above knowledge, I am only to happy to pass it on if the will help you and other "Bigfoots" find what you are looking for.

Incidentally, keep your eyes on the "Real Life Meetings" section from time to time, because during the spring we hope to have a special Heel-Meet for us UK "Bigfoot" members, when we will do the rounds and visit several of the above places.

Cheerfully yours, Heelfan

TXT-1 · 5th January 2004, 10:48

as the owner of a pair of UK Womens 11/US womens 13 size feet, I'm envious of anyone that has UK Women's 9/US Women's 11 size feet luckily I can get Exotic Dancer/Fetish Plats as they go up to US 14 Women's size, but some people even have trouble fitting into those 14's!

later,

TXT-1

Anita C. · 5th January 2004, 17:26

As so many of us have said you need to tell your wife NOW!

Sadly I cannot tell you how to make a marraige last BUT I DO know what it takes to wreck one and being deceitful heads the list!

As hard as it might be you need to tell her.

Do NOT just buy them & hide them where ever untill she discovers them
(and rest assured she will discover them)!

J-Nation · 6th January 2004, 01:04

Other Yorkshire sources for larger sized ladies shoes include:
Medissa Shoes - Queen Street, Morley ('sensible' shoes)
Desire - Attercliffe Common, Sheffield (more fetish styles)
Emma

chris100575 · 6th January 2004, 17:13

Emma, do Desire have a website by any chance? I've had a quick Google for it but drew a blank. I'm not too far from Sheffield.

Chris

Pam · 6th January 2004, 21:05

I have to concur with Anita

Tell her, do it as soon as you have a chance...My wife found about my "secret" by accident and it was like opening a can of worms!

However, after a long converstation and many, many questions things are back on a good track.

It is easier to tell a bad news than to explain a discovered "hobbie"!

pam

Heelfan · 6th January 2004, 22:25

Hold on folks, this whole subject of "Telling her" is only starting to repeat the excellent thread "HELP COPING WITH WIFE!" which was very thorough and well-debated, and which is still fully readable further down on this "For The Guys" section.

At this point, I suggest that everyone carefully reads that, which covers the whole issue very exhaustively.

Cheerfully yours, Heelfan