Another "Outing" - Page 3

William · 17th August 2008, 17:27

As much as we all enjoy our heels, most were manufactured with a more feminie style, which makes anyone who wears a "girly" shoe a cross-dresser of some description (bear with me, I know some would disagree). My point is simply that most young men in high school are too threatened by guys who would push their love for heels so far as to wear them to school. On the other hand, you can still buy genuine 1970's shoes, or buy the newer retro styles of shoes (I like them, though some find them too block-ish for their tatstes). Retro is cool; it's fun. Most importantly, it's not as threatening to other teens. Grab up some disco and have fun with it.

thatotherguy · 17th August 2008, 21:30

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Originally Posted by William

As much as we all enjoy our heels, most were manufactured with a more feminie style, which makes anyone who wears a "girly" shoe a cross-dresser of some description (bear with me, I know some would disagree). My point is simply that most young men in high school are too threatened by guys who would push their love for heels so far as to wear them to school. On the other hand, you can still buy genuine 1970's shoes, or buy the newer retro styles of shoes (I like them, though some find them too block-ish for their tatstes). Retro is cool; it's fun. Most importantly, it's not as threatening to other teens. Grab up some disco and have fun with it.

I agree with you, but I believe there is more than just being "threatened". It is more like being rejected by the group which the person feels associated with. It is because of this, that the heel lover feels that he should not escape the "norms" (a set of predefined behaviour) which society, and most importantly, the group of teenage males have set out. All the guys in this school may feel that he has an urge to wear high heels, however, once again it is the fear of escaping this norm and hence being rejected by the group which suppresses them wearing heels, or expressing their want to wear them.

Bubba136 · 18th August 2008, 00:53

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Originally Posted by thatotherguy

I agree with you, but I believe there is more than just being "threatened". It is more like being rejected by the group which the person feels associated with. It is because of this, that the heel lover feels that he should not escape the "norms" (a set of predefined behaviour) which society, and most importantly, the group of teenage males have set out. All the guys in this school may feel that he has an urge to wear high heels, however, once again it is the fear of escaping this norm and hence being rejected by the group which suppresses them wearing heels, or expressing their want to wear them.

I totally agree with "thatotherguy"! From our early experiences we constantly seek approval from our parents, siblings and schoolmates, etc., etc. Perhaps it's this certainty of "disapproval" for not following these "pre-determined sets of norms and fear of ridicule that stops a lot of us from doing things that will put the "shame" in our minds.

HHDude · 18th August 2008, 18:39

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Originally Posted by William

As much as we all enjoy our heels, most were manufactured with a more feminie style, which makes anyone who wears a "girly" shoe a cross-dresser of some description (bear with me, I know some would disagree). My point is simply that most young men in high school are too threatened by guys who would push their love for heels so far as to wear them to school. On the other hand, you can still buy genuine 1970's shoes, or buy the newer retro styles of shoes (I like them, though some find them too block-ish for their tatstes). Retro is cool; it's fun. Most importantly, it's not as threatening to other teens. Grab up some disco and have fun with it.

Someone actually recommended that not too long ago, and I saw a pair at Carson's just yesterday. They looked "retro" enough, and I could get a pair. But, my cousin has a similar pair (not gonna take them. Mom banned me from them anyway), and if I recall correctly, they were "click-clack" heels, if you catch my drift. I mean, I would love to go "retro" at the school, but as the other 2 said.....

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Originally Posted by thatotherguy

But I believe there is more than just being "threatened". It is more like being rejected by the group which the person feels associated with. It is because of this, that the heel lover feels that he should not escape the "norms" (a set of predefined behaviour) which society, and most importantly, the group of teenage males have set out. All the guys in this school may feel that he has an urge to wear high heels, however, once again it is the fear of escaping this norm and hence being rejected by the group which suppresses them wearing heels, or expressing their want to wear them.

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Originally Posted by Bubba136

From our early experiences we constantly seek approval from our parents, siblings and schoolmates, etc., etc. Perhaps it's this certainty of "disapproval" for not following these "pre-determined sets of norms and fear of ridicule that stops a lot of us from doing things that will put the "shame" in our minds.

....Yeah, I'm totally feeling the pressure from the male side of the gender group. I could probably tell all of the females at my school, and generally be/feel accepted by them. But it's the males I sit at the lunch table with, and male friends I talk to. So yes, I'm trying to keep with the fashion of them, and the fashion IS actually the footwear you walk in with. Think I told everyone that uniforms are enforced at the school (except on "Jeans Day"=Get-out-of-uniforms Day), so what footwear we walk in with is what's at the center of attention, especially for us males.