blacksmith25

hey everyone im new here and ive loved high heels since i was 3 years old. I have about 30 pairs now and i wanted to know is it weird that a big brolic black cuban guy like me wearing high heels in public? i mean im not tryin to be racist or anything its just i would like to know from another's perspective, so can you guys let me know what you think?

tightsnheels

As you said not to be racist but in my experiance it seems that black men can wear much more than us white guys and get away with it.
Just my opinion though.
T&H

blacksmith25

well thanks for your opinion at least your being honest about it. i mean considering that the black people i know consider that is to being gay i try to explain that it is only footwear but everyone i have asked says that it is weird and gay. i guess its just because i am around jugdemental people but it is good to get an opinion from an open-minded person

Dr. Shoe

It's no more weird than anyone else doing it...

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vector

Some cultures can appear more "homophobic" than others. And to many, a man wearing women's clothing (other than earrings- funny how that has changed in 20 years) is considered homosexual.

I am black (African-American) and I believe the African-American, Caribbean, Hispanic and African communities are much less tolerant the the Caucasian communities.

JMHO

hiheellover23

Hey what's up blacksmith25, my name is Ramon I'm 28 years of age. I also am an african american male and I have always had those same questions myself. I agree with you that people of the same ethnic background can be our worst enemy because they are afraid of change. Me honestly I am sick of normal and I like to see more variety and besides normal male shoes are boring. Sometimes I have the fear that people will think that I'm gay or something like that but I think I'm more afraid that I may see someone that I recognize and what their outlook would be on me. But for one benefit is that my girlfriend bought me a pair of boots and I will be sure to wear them with pride. As I continue to gradually wear them out to wherever I'm going I start to become more and more comfortable and confident. On the positive tip I figure that in the future we may become the next hottest trend. I mean if the long hairstyles, earrings, manicures, are part of male fashion then I'm pretty sure that we will gradually make it on the list. So keep on doin what ya doin cuz I know I'm gonna keep clickin my high heels.... HHL23

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JeffB

Really? I don't think that particular memo reached my neighborhood yet.

blacksmith25: My name is Jeff, I'm a 49 year old black man, and perhaps the elder statesman when it comes to men of color on this board who wear heels in public. To answer your question, no, you're not weird at all, like the rest of us, you simply have an eclectic fashion sense, nothing more. Only narrowminded or closeminded idiots with IQ's no higher than their ages would associate footwear with sexual preference which is absolute ridiculous. Shoes have nothing at all to do with being gay or not, that's just so much crap. Don't let the uninformed nonsense of fools deter you from wear heels if that's what you want to do. Don't let others, or yourself think that something's wrong with you because you enjoy wearing women's shoes. That's not the case, plain and simple. Just be bold, be confident and do what you enjoy, just like the rest of us here. Welcome aboard!

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Trinity

Peoples perceptions are radically different depending where you live, some areas are very cosmopolitan, and as such people on the whole just dont care/worry about what you wear. other areas are less tolerant.
However what you wear is down to you and your own confidence, if you are happy to go out in heels then sod what others think do what you want.

gwl1

First of all, welcome to this forum, Blacksmith; glad to have you aboard. It always amazes me that people think their own family, neighborhood, ethnic group, tribe, or clan is the most intolerant of all when it comes to accepting fashion that's different. "I live in a small town (or big city) that's too redneck (or too conservative). I could never wear heels around here." We hear that all the time. Well, guess what? It ain't so. The grass is brown on BOTH sides of the fence! So ignore those demons in your head and wear what you want to. The folks around you are no different than those anywhere else. It's a mixed bag - some will notice and others won't; some will be intolerant and others accepting; some will say something (mostly immature teenage girls who giggle a lot when they're in groups), and others (most people, actually) won't. So, as Shakespeare said, "Be true to thyself" and wear whatever pleases YOU.

I frequently visit another forum, Legwear as Unisex Fashion, which advocates that tights, pantyhose, and stockings are ok for men to wear also. They agonize over many of the same issues we do here. It's amazing how similar the posts are in many respects. There's no doubt that men are more insecure than women when it comes to apparel. Take a look, if you're interested, at:

http://forums.delphiforums.com/legwearuf

Another source of interest is Comfilon's web site at www.comfilon.com -they sell nylon hosiery and loungewear for men. Under the tab Customer Support there are FAQs and then OAQs (Occasionally Asked Questions). Scroll down to the OAQ called "Will people think I'm gay?" and read it. It's the best answer I've ever seen to this issue of why people think men who wear items of women's clothing are gay, and you could easily substitute heels for legwear. I especially like the "conversation" at the end. Memorize it and use it on the next person who questions your sexual preference!

GWL

roniheels

Blacksmith25...

I am a 54 year old white man who wears men's suits and feminine high heels (at least 5" high heels) publicly every day. And I make it a point to go different places wearing my high heels.

Do you think that's weird?