buffy

Hello,

I am new here, and this seems just the place to ask for some help... I usually wear platforms or heels but not higher than 4-5cm.... I am getting married soon and my shoes are 9cm..... I have been trying to walk in them and look ridiculous, I was told to maybe cut down the heel to 7cm, any suggestions how to walk and look normal?

Thanks

Tom-NL

Buffy,

Have you already found Jenny's website? It contains an extensive guide on "how to wear high heels successfully", including training tips.

http://jennyspage.co.uk/wearing.htm

And then you should practice, practice, practice ...

That will take time though - I hope you have enough time left until your wedding day arrives.

Good luck, and I wish you a great wedding day and marriage.

buffy

Hi Tom,

I read Jenny's advice and will try her recommendations... I am just worried... like how often should I practice? And what If I just can't wear high heels?? :(

Tom-NL

Buffy,

You should build up your training gradually, it is not like you start wearing them all day long straight from the start :-)

For example, Jenny mentions how to build up doing "heel raises": start with doing them for 3 seconds and repeat 3 times, and in the end do it for 10 seconds and repeat 10 times. That is to be built up over days and weeks, not in 1 day! But you can do such exercises several times per day.

(taken from http://jennyspage.co.uk/wearing2.htm#train )

About being able to wear high heels or not: unless there is a medical reason, you probably can wear "some form of high heels". I deliberately use that strangelooking phrase, because different people have different ideas as to when heels should be called "high". the size of your foot plays an important role in how high you could go. Wearing a 3½ inch heel is easier when you are a size 8 UK then when you wear a size 5 UK: your foot is less "steep" on the same heel height.

But those are just general observations. Experienced wearers are probably a much better source of practical information for you than I can be.

It would be nice to hear later from you, how things went on your wedding day and during your training.

Rob

Hi Buffy,

Practice in your wedding shoes as much as possible, but listen to your feet - when they start to ache, change to a lower heel. This means that at first you may only manage an hour or so, but after a few days or weeks you will be able to manage a whole day (which you will need to cope with for your wedding).

You say that you usually wear heels of 4-5cm. Is that your normal height for work, and out & about? If so, it might be worth buying some shoes around 7cm high and try wearing these to work as your normal day to day shoes. (And still practice in your wedding shoes in the evenings.)

If you only wear 4-5cm heels occasionally, try wearing them much more often.

This should all help you master the higher heels. Good luck with your wedding! :D

buffy

Thank you!.. you are right last time I was on the shoes for an hour and after that I had to take them off....my dress maker suggested I also wear the shoes around the house e.g. while I iron or other activites that aren't "dirty"...

I have a very small foot (36 European 4 UK)... but the shoes aren't uncomfortable...

I actually found out that wearing high heels is easier on carpets than on the stone floor I have at home...

hoverfly

UK size 4!!?? for that foot size that small you are wearing an equivalent of a 10 to 11 cm heel, but it's manageable to adapt to with some time. I think the most important question is how close are you to your wedding day?

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buffy

My wedding is only in October so I have time....and also if it is really bad and I can't walk in them I can trim the heal down to 7cm....

hoverfly

Well in that case get your self a few more pairs to have for daily wear in various heights for training. You should be able to master them before your wedding day. Also check in once in a while, there are a number of members who are women that could help you out as well.

I have one more suggestion, find a pair of heels that are higher like a half inch or more difference than the ones you are going to wear at the wedding and just wear them around the house when doing chores. You don't have to master them to wear them all day long, but they will stretch your foot so when you wear your wedding shoes they feel much lower and easier to wear then before.

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Lucy

Hi Buffy!

As one of the Forum's lady wearers of very high heels, I think I can help you! In fact, it is very important to help you master 9 cm heels, because
that will not only help you look good on your wedding day, but will be invaluable in launching you into an enjoyable lifetime of high heel wearing!
It is such fun, and will help you in many ways! Here are some random points:

1. You CANNOT cut an existing pair of 9 cm heels down to 7 cm! The shoe's "balance" would be destroyed. Instead of the toe-box being flat on the ground, the shoe would rock backwards and the toe would stick up into the air.

2. Can I suggest your reading the early chapters of my "Lucy's Story" (my life in high heels) - find the thread below "Stories With A Heely Theme" and click on to "Lucy's Story". This will prevent you from looking ridiculous. Girls usually think they look ridiculous if the heels make their knees stick forward or their bottom stick backwards, or they don't know how to wear the high heels with elegance and dignity. My chapters at Business Acadamy describe the excellent training that I received in all those things.

Also, if you cannot stand in high heels for more than an hour, read my chapters 22 to 24a,b,c on footcare and tips to lessen such problems.

3. Don't despair or give up! 9 cm is not that high, even for a size 4 UK foot. I only take a size 5 (4 1/2 in some brands) , and my story relates how I graduated from 2" (5 cm) kitten heels to 6" (15 cm) ultra-high heels, and the story is still ongoing! You will never regret it - it will give you an accomplishment for life!

4. Lastly, much of it is in the mind. Don't feel ridiculous! tell yourself that high heels always make a girl more elegant, attractive, sexy and sensuous! ENJOY wearing in them and moving in them and living in them! Savour the THRILL that they can give us girls when we put them on, and glide and slink around in them! Wear them every day, even for a few minutes, and then the next day for a bit longer and so on. Believe me, if you stick to this advice and ENJOY it, you'll soon find yourself mastering them and feeling GOOD in them, until your like me or Anita or Anne-Louise in that you LOVE wearing them every day, and eventually instead of wanting to go lowever that 9 cm, you'll find yourself wanting to go higher, just as I describe myself doing in my stories, and like the other lady members of this Forum describe.

Good luck, and relax, and ENJOY THE EXPERIENCE!

Love, Lucy

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