johnieheel

Do you think some women have the same fear as some men to wear heels in public places?
yes
no

I think that there are some women, like a lot of men who are afraid of being singled out and looked at and mabe afraid of what people might say behind there back to wear heels in public. Some women really might want to but don't have the confidence to wear heels in public on an every day, go to the store kinda thing for fear of being pointed out kind of like a lot of us guys.
What do you think?

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SarahLou

Yes! I'm quite glad you brought that up. I am one of those women. I have such good intentions, buying shoes and looking at them all the time, but if I am not going to work I get worried about wearing heels - and often don't end up wearing them. It seemed to be slightly easier when I was single, but now I feel like Im asking for attention from other men, which I don't want. I wish this wasnt the case as I love shoes! How do men overcome it?

Also, what made you think of this?

Histiletto

Hey johnnieheel,

This subject needs addressing. We men think that wearing heels would not be any problem for women, but as Sarahlou points out they are attention grabbing. If a woman is on the prowl for a potential companion, her personality and looks, along with heels will advertise her presence and get her all the noticing she could ever want. Now, I know it is flattering to think someone has admired your appearance, but there are times you just want to look good without having to deal with anyone. You should have that right to be unbothered if you so desire. It is too bad that society hasn't made clear to some people, that one's space is not to be invaded or obstructed unless consent is given and even then others should to continue to show respect after getting the consent.

As far as answering the question of overcoming the attention, when male heeling is as common as women heelers and men no longer have the social attitude to deal with, we might have a little more of an authoritative solution. For now, this may be a natural result up to now, because of the heeling domination by women. Possibly, if men could have an equal share in heeling, maybe the expectation would not have such an influence. However, from my point of view, the attraction of a women will always trump the appearance of a man, whether in heels or not.

roniheels

I voted yes and I'll try to explain. I believe there are some women, as there are some men, who are going to wear whatever they want or like to wear. Because of the social pressures or stereotypes, some women and men will follow what they feel is the "norm" and dress more conservatively for personal and professional reasons, too. One woman in our office said she will never wear high heels in the office and doesn't think others should either. She said this is an office, not a night club. Sarahlou's comments go along with the idea that women know that wearing high heels will bring attention to them, and as in her case, it might not be the attention she necessarily wants. High heeled shoes, as long as I can remember, have been called sexy and daring and associated with sexy women wearing them. When I wear high heels, it is a bit of a novelty because they aren't a typical part of my wardrobe. Most women have or have had at least one pair of high heels in thier possesion for a special occassion. Those women might think long and hard about when they ought to wear them. For a number of reasons, I voted yes to the question.

SarahLou

I feel a strange sense of relief knowing that someone has addressed this subject! Even though no other women on here have posted about it yet. My other half would love for me to wear heels way more often than I do, but Im not sure he realizes the amount of unwanted attention it seems to get - or maybe he does and thats the attraction.

But I can only really do what Im comfortable with - as I have found out for myself, there is no point wearing heels out when you don't REALLY want to, and feeling self conscious all day/night, or getting unwanted advances.

mikeheel

Hmmm, seems the whole human race is in danger of wearing flat shoes most of the time !
Does the attention, that women get, equate to that which men draw when showing high heels?
Does feeling self conscious have any benefits?...I can't think of any.
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BoyLegs

The women I have known all have some reluctance to wear heels in public "when nobody else is." They want to fit in and they observe what other people are doing.

shrimper

Its interesting to notice that men who don't actually care about heels feel that a woman in heels is more open to their advances. In this day and age an unescorted woman in heels is very likely to experience rudeness from ignorant males and most wish to avoid this type of encounter.
I don't believe the type of men who frequent this board would harass a person, male or female because of their outfit but it does happen.

Thighbooter

Thanks Johnieheel and SarahLou. I've had a nagging question in my mind that I was planning to post here, and now I think I have the answer. My question, observation really, was that I often see women wearing just stunningly beautiful high heels, and then they'll also be wearing wide legged slacks that are so long they drag the ground, get torn up and completely cover their shoes. I guess now, I know why. They must like the feel of wearing the heels, but don't want the attention they inherintly draw. I guess that makes since, but it's still kind of a bummer for folks like me who really like the overall apprerance of them.

So, I too voted yes. Makes since really.

Bubba136

It's the fashion mate! Raggy edge bottoms on their pants leg cuffs and can't see the shoes. Totally out of place because I know there's a pair of heels under those cuffs, somewheere. LOL

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