Do you think - Page 2

Nina · 15th June 2008, 10:54

I would never feel out of place wearing my stilettos. I wear them as often as I like. If I get lots of looks, great!! I would be most upset if nobody glanced in my direction :-)

As for overly eager advances, well classic pumps have pointed toes and even a half hearted kick from them in a delicate area is going to hurt a guy. Don't forget that ladies :-)

Nina.

SarahLou · 15th June 2008, 14:32

I wish I was as confident as you Nina! If only it was that simple for me.

johnieheel · 16th June 2008, 05:38

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Originally Posted by SarahLou

Yes! I'm quite glad you brought that up. I am one of those women. I have such good intentions, buying shoes and looking at them all the time, but if I am not going to work I get worried about wearing heels - and often don't end up wearing them. It seemed to be slightly easier when I was single, but now I feel like Im asking for attention from other men, which I don't want. I wish this wasnt the case as I love shoes! How do men overcome it?

Also, what made you think of this?

1st of all SarahLou, the way I over came it was to just think about how you only go around once in this life so I just decided to start being myself no matter what other people think knowing that me wearing heels isn't hurting anybody, on the other hand it is helping me to be whole and who I am.
2- There was another thread in the guys section that made me think of it.
It was the thread about seeing women in nice clothes and flats or ugly shoes.

Stilettoscot · 16th June 2008, 16:34

I posted yes as I would imagine women to have the same "Am I gonna fall, etc" fears.
But, in my mind, they probably have less variety of fears as they can easily go out in public from a society-acceptance standpoint.

thedesigner · 17th June 2008, 00:04

ok, so i'm a bloke so i cant answer for the ladies, so shoot me down gently cos i know i have a reputation for being too loud...
I dont consider a woman in heels to be 1/ tarty 2/ up for it.
I take it as being nice, a woman who pleases herself and likes to be admired. If she is going somewhere where she may attract attention she does not want (the wrong side of town) then she wont wear heels.
I am proud of my soulmate wearing big heels when we're out, it gives her confidence that she's admired by strangers, which pleases me too on her behalf, as her dress sense is immaculate.
I know a lot of blokes who would try to ban their partners from dressing up, to me theyre sad and lacking in confidence.
The day she buys crocs is the day my eyes wander.....

William · 25th June 2008, 16:41

My wife will only wear her really high heels when she's going to be with me, like when we go out together. She will wear 2" - 3" heels sometimes, just because she likes the outfit witht he shoes. Generally, I believe she feels a bit "naughty" to be wearing 5" - 6" heels. And, generally, this leads us toward the bedroom when we get home. I am a very lucky man, indeed. My wife totally gets the whole excitment of heels. Which is why she most often doesn't wear the really high ones to work.

When at home, if she's wanting a piece of me, she'll wear shoes that weren't designed to be walked in at all.

I love the feel of wearing high heels myself. But, rarely, would I go out wearing the kind of heels I wear in the privacy of my own home. I do have some boots with chunky heels (3" - 4") that I'll throw together with long jeans sometimes. Mostly, not around my own neighborhood, only when we're out of town. No need for rumors about that "wierd" couple who lives down the street, if you know what I mean. Should the 70's return, however, I'll be the guy walking confidently in my 7" platforms (without falling over)!

Amanda Snake · 25th June 2008, 20:04

Sure there are times when I would have felt happier wearing lower heels.
Times when I felt inapropriately dressed and would have prefered not to draw any extra attention to myself.
It's rare for me to feel that way. I guess I'm just a hardened long time heel wearer.

heelma · 25th June 2008, 22:17

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Originally Posted by johnieheel

Do you think some women have the same fear as some men to wear heels in public places?

I don't think that this is a fair question to ask. As a man, we have the main fear that someone humiliates us for wearing something men normally don't wear, etc - all the 1000x discussed issues. Yes, there are reasons for women to be afraid as well (as we saw in replies to this thread), but to me, this is all on a completely different level. A woman never has to worry that someone openly laughs at her for just wearing heels. It's more about "is this too slutty?", "are my heels too high for work?", etc. Compare that to "do I need to wear a suit when I go to work?" It's more a common dress code question.

Phoenix · 27th June 2008, 04:00

I agree with you.

johnieheel · 30th June 2008, 12:21

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Originally Posted by heelma

I don't think that this is a fair question to ask. As a man, we have the main fear that someone humiliates us for wearing something men normally don't wear, etc - all the 1000x discussed issues. Yes, there are reasons for women to be afraid as well (as we saw in replies to this thread), but to me, this is all on a completely different level. A woman never has to worry that someone openly laughs at her for just wearing heels. It's more about "is this too slutty?", "are my heels too high for work?", etc. Compare that to "do I need to wear a suit when I go to work?" It's more a common dress code question.

Missing the point.