Come on guys, leave the high heels for the girls.... - Page 2

Platform_dude · 9th February 2002, 05:22

Truly a provocative topic. I believe most have already hit on the answer. Men and women should be able to wear whatever they feel comfortable with. I also agree with those who say that men are painting themselves into a corner in the fashion world; as women take over every look and style, men will be relegated to either gray flannel suits or battle fatigues as the only acceptably masculine clothing. This is definitely a problem in the USA; most young men affect the "generic minority" hiphop look, with the super baggy oversize clothing that seems to have become almost a uniform. So much for "individuality"... Be different, think for yourself, wear what appeals to you.

Laurieheels · 9th February 2002, 05:48

My only comment is about individuality. Sometimes I feel that I would like to be the only one in heels. Why? To stand out, to be different. I do not like to conform. I do wish for men to be free in expression. Sometimes I feel that if men wear stiletto heels in public, that it would take away from me and what I am trying to do in an attempt to be different.

It's a tough line to walk. Support non conformity and free choice, but do not support it when it threatens my own non conformity and free choice.

Everyone should just live life and be themselves. I may need to find a safe way to blend ultra fem and goth and still go to work without risk of being fired. I only have one day a year to do this, and next time it's Hallowe'en, I'd rather wear a costume and not just my own clothes in a way that makes it look like a costume.

We all have goals. So let's just go for them, and those who really need to be different can find a way to survive.

Trolldeg · 9th February 2002, 10:50

Laurie - there's not just *one* way to wear heels. Even if someone else wears heels as high and thin as yours, there are so many other things that come together and make the look. I doubt any guy would wear heels the same way as you do.

Laurieheels · 9th February 2002, 21:00

Okay, so there is no one way to wear heels, you're right, but it isn't that, it is about anyone even coming close, or even in the same universe.
However, you are right that men could not wear heels the way I do. I don't think men wish to wiggle as they walk and flaunt their freaky cool attitude.
Still, I hate crowds and trends. I like stiletto heels. Crowds really make me feel lost as an individual, as if I do not matter. Maybe this is why I have developed a desire for styles that are still very classy, sexy and feminine, but different.

All of these women at work have boots. Everywhere boots. Boots to the knees, with many styles of heel. I would not buy a pair, lest I blend in. So it's something other women do not wear for most of my days at work, four inch heeled oxfords.

We who post here may realize that there are differences between two different people wearing the same pair of shoes, but North American society is, well, conformist and trendy, and they do not look at the differences, just the similarities. That's why I am nervous about this whole heels being super popular idea. It would be great for all of us, but how high would I have to go before the numbed souls could see me as different from the woman next to me?

Society is too general, too boring, to ever stop fighting the trends.

Slim · 9th February 2002, 21:16

Laurie, I know how you feel, I really don't care to see other men in heels, I lose my advantage. Anyway I don't want some jerk wearing them. Now girls are a different story, I like women in heels, pumps and sling backs etc. Boots can look good but most of the ones today look like they were made by or for a Cat Diesel.

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Jeff · 9th February 2002, 21:33

Laurie,

Even if all the women start wearing high heels again (I wish...), you can still make a difference by choosing different styles than what is commonly worn.
I think there's always a possibility to be different if you want to. It doesn't have to be in just the height of the heel..

Call me selfish, but I for one, wouldn't mind at all, seeing and meeting more girls like yourself and the other gals on the board here.

Trolldeg · 9th February 2002, 22:28

No matter how trendy heels may be, you have to be a bit of an addict to wear the really high ones. You don't see many people in 5" heels.

Firefox · 9th February 2002, 23:29

A woman wearing heels can be a jerk the same way as a guy can. It's not the shoes but the person that counts. Also, I think it's strange that people are relying on heels for their individuality. In the end it's just a first impression, something small about you as a person.

But your true character and personality has little to do with your footwear. I say this as a person who is deeply interested in shoes, otherwise why would I be an admin on this board? However, the shoes are just a small facet. We're all different individuals beneath our outward appearances so don't get carried away by the shoes

Laurieheels · 10th February 2002, 07:54

This is one of those days when no one understands me at all...

Shoes are not my only means of self expression, but they are a part of it. It's important to me. And if how I feel shouldn't matter, then what does?

If high heels are the fashion trend, then it will not be easy to find a different style. Everyone has to understand I am quite limited in what I can purchase in life. No I cannot mail order, and no, this is not a city where these shoes are easy to find.

Shoes are a matter of personal expression for me. If someone does not like it, meet me out in the alley in five minutes, please.

No one grasps the fact that to be different for me exists on all levels. My personality is already quirky and certainly different, but it isn't enough for me. I should express it in other ways than just being the silly girl. My point is that I would feel as if I lost one of those ways if everyone else was wearing something similar to what I was wearing. It is a society of sheep and I have to fight against that.

WHY? It's who I am, and I'd rather not change this part of me. I like it, it's fun, except for when no one understands how I feel. Hey, story of my life, I suppose!

Slim · 10th February 2002, 18:57

Self-expression? In my case I have no choice, I don’t try to be different, I just am. The things I do are as basic as my nose or baldhead. I have tried to change and can't. A couple of weeks ago a female friend, commenting on my ADD dyslexia, said “why it extends right down to your high heels”. I was wearing an unusually spiky pair of pointed toe boots when she made the comment. Sometimes you just have except things and get on with it.