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Originally Posted by Thighboots2  Fred,
Can't really comment on numbers, but why should attendees wear heels just because it is a heel meet, surely its about meeting the faces and personalities being the handle rather than look at what I am brave enough to wear. Also remember the fear of being spotted and associated with a mean wearing high heels however remote a chance it is. You said back in March this year "I do have something to fear if my whole social circle found out about my interest in wearing heels." So why should it be any different for anyone else. But I think this was before you followed my reasoning on the style of heel and having taken to wedges and block heels that you are now wearing heels. You see the prejudices still exist and I quote another of your posts from February "However, I go out most nights, walking quieter streets. If I go out early, I usually go with a 'lady-friend' who enjoys the walks, but doesn't want her friends to meet us, as she'd rather not have to explain what's going on." this time its your walking partner who is afraid of the prejudices of being with a man in stiletto heels. |
A lot of these remarks are out of context with regard to my comments I think, so let me put them back in.
I said I was surprised that more people didn't attend 'meets'. I never mentioned (or suggested) the wearing of HH to be a prerequesite of meeting up? In fact (since you are so familiar with my previous postings) you will know that prior to the meet at Watford which
was close to my home town, I wrote I would NOT be wearing heels there, under any circumstances? [Although I did in the evening, as it turned out.] Can't say I was personally over-bothered about being seen with men wearing heels though. No-one wore stiletto's, so that helped.
For my part, I don't expect anyone to meet me in heels nor me meet them wearing them, at least not for the first time anyway. And as a couple of comments in this thread confirm, I actually discouraged one of our group from wearing them publically last time. [Especially since it was their first time out in them.]
As
this thread confirms, it wasn't long after the 2008 World Heel Meet, I was out and about in heels during daylight. All of my previous HH wearing was done dressed '
en femme' at night in Clubs, many many years ago. Getting out in daylight wearing heels, was quite an experience. I quickly learned what was 'passable', and have been evangelising about it ever since. [As here.]
During the long dark Winter months, I
was able to wear stiletto's out during the evening in neighbouring towns, and sometimes locally. Even under cover of darkness, there was a need to be discreet, as you rightly quoted. Nothing is different, and light evenings have all but stopped my walks out.
I expect the need for discretion is the same for everyone else (for the most part), and it's why the chosen location for the meeting places mean EVERYONE travels to them. London and the anonimity it offers, is good for me as it's only a 30-40 minute journey by car. But I've been all over the Northern Home Counties in heels now. Been 'twigged' a number of times, but no bad experiences .... yet.
I'm enjoying it so much, I tend to evangelise even more!
Of course I'd love to wear heels 24/7 (I think), but it's not realistic. Oddly, I very seldomly wear them at home, and only then, when I'm getting new shoes or boots used to my feet.
So, I don't expect to meet (men) wearing heels, though I hope they do. And I don't expect anyone to prejudice themselves wearing them in their home town, because
I won't. Though I have worn the Fornarina's food shopping at the local supermarket.
Now that my comments are less ambiguous ....
So I'm wondering why people from here who are obviously interested in all things heeling, don't meet up more often. I wonder why, given the amount of support a group can provide, more men (who want to wear heels) are not doing it
in a group? And if/when they do, why they don't use more 'passable' styles? [Ref our comments above.]
I'm certainly not suggesting anyone else is wrong in what they do, nor that they should be doing something else. I'm just surprised more people are not doing what they want to do? Because it seems to me, it's easily done once you try.
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