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Originally Posted by roz  I think a lot of male members just genuinely enjoy reading the girls' forum and just forget and reply accidentally. I have seen some really good posts by men deleted as a result, but it is a vocal minority who ruin it for all men IMHO, I personally get bored of some members whose only contribution in the girls' forum seems to be to ask for pictures. |
I've managed to post I think twice on the Girls Section, by accident. When I log in, I use the 'New Post' button, and just read through those which seem interesting. For some time I didn't check the forum they were written in. It isn't until I press the 'Post' button and re-read my text that I realise my mistake. Since we can't delete our own posts, I'd deleted the text and asked Mods to finish the job off. Hopefully I've stopped doing it.
In fact, I try hard to avoid looking in the Girls Section. I treat it rather ike a Ladies handbag, or the Ladies loo. If people need/want somewhere personal to chat, I think they should have it. I'd actually prefer it if the Girls Section was hidden from the men members. Or me at least?
Since I don't write in the Girls Section, I doubt the reference above is pointed at me.
But I have asked for a photograph (via PM) from someone here.
Not a 'show us yer bits' request, nor a show us your shoes' request either. But a 'who am I talking to' request.... A couple of the girls here model, so I can see they are real. I've met quite a few people here too, so I know they are real.....
But in the virtual world, how do we tell whether the person who claims to be "22 year old pole-dancer with Account Facilities at a Harley Street Cosmetic Surgeon and a taste for wearing HH on a 24/7 basis" isn't really a 14 year old school boy with enough intellect to 'entertain' several hundred members here? Or worse, how do we know they're not a 24 year old reporter working for the Sun Newspaper looking for a bit of scandal to 'make their mark'? Certainly on another BB I'm member of, a couple of people there were
directly quoted in a newspaper!
You just can't tell.....
Personally, I like to have some F-2-F contact with someone I'm having a conversation with. If that's not possible, I'll compromise. But I think it imprudent to have a personal conversation with someone who won't qualify themselves. That of course will mean ensuring my personal security/integrity will
cost me what might be a fruitful relationship with someone I wouldn't otherwise converse with, but it'll also ensure I don't get found to be discussing anything intimate with a 14 year old schoolboy from an inner London school.
I must confess I find it quite a hard balancing act. Providing enough information/advice/support to make my input worthwhile to other readers, while keeping myself uninvolved enough to not be too interested in others here. Just like a moth to a flame, I find participation here quite inviting. But the reality is, of the 300 or so active members here (if there's that many), they'll be 300 ideas on what is or isn't appropriate behaviour from every other member. The opportunities to inadvertently upset or insult someone is enormous.
Thankfully, most here are a good humoured sort and take comments made in 'glass-half-full' mode, rather than 'half-empty'. Put another way, most here see comments in a positive light, rather than the alternative.
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