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Old 16th May 2008, 11:20   #4 (permalink)
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Default Re: An uneventful evening out. (Again).

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Originally Posted by Thighbootguy View Post
Your comment, “I'll admit to thinking I was asking for trouble <looking at the customer demographic>” concerned me. I’m glad everything went well and that you were aware that you were pushing things a bit.

Thanks for the post and as they used to say on Hill Street Blues, “Be careful out there”.


Thank you sir!

As I've mentioned to you by PM, you are an inspiration. I'll never manage to push as far as you have managed, but I do what I can in my own <smaller> way.

"Trouble" is a relative term, that perhaps bears some explanation.

I generally walk out in the evening under cover of darkness. Getting harder here as darkness doesn't arrive until about 9pm at the moment. [Midsummer in 5 weeks.]

I'm getting more used to visiting malls and town centres in discreet heels, but yesterday I went out in heels that weren't that discreet. Until now, I'd had almost no experience of this. There was one short trip to a restaurant I've mentioned elsewhere, where I also nearly slipped over a couple of times on shiny wooden flooring, but that was about it.

This time out, I kinda declared my presence, though still in a fairly subtle way.

The main shopping area in the West End of London was fairly straightforward, and I've been there in heels a number of times already. The supermarket I went to, is situated in a reasonably poor area. I'd never been there before, and knew little about what sort of person I might meet inside. Two men I followed in through the front door, looked like they had been to the pub prior to going shopping for groceries. Us Brits have a problem with drinking, <controlling our consumption when we start> and alcohol is well known de-inhibitor.

I never worry about violence. I'm not big, but I do look like someone who might not provide an easy target. I've spent some of my recent years working in areas where 'decent' people would not choose to go. The closest I ever been to being mugged, I was being asked for 'fare' home. I gave a chap £1 coin. His mate wanted one too, and I refused. The 2nd chap was insistent, as was I. The 1st chap saw what going to happen, and thought better of the whole situation. Sure I was scared, but we Brits are known for not walking away from a fight, even if we expect to get a bloody nose. I guess these two realised that, and moved on to a softer target.

Same with shoes. I don't expect the sort of abuse some here who live in other countries, have suffered in the past. I am more worried about what I will describe as verbal abuse. I mean embarrassment of course. A bunch of [young-ish] lads laughing at me, (or girls thinking about it) would be the worst thing for me. Individuals looking at me, and making a point of laughing while I could see, would feel quite hurtful too. On balance, I think I'm starting to put myself in a position where this becomes almost inevitable, because I feel I should experience it? Not because I find it an attractive prospect, but I feel the need to 'inoculate' myself against a situation where I might have absolutely no control over the outcome. If I can acclimatize myself in a situation I've half-way arranged, I might be able to maintain an element of control.

So, "trouble" in this instance, was never likely to be any more brutal than being at the sharp end of a couple of middle-aged drunks, having some amusement at my expense.

I do appreciate your good advise though, and will endeavour to make good use of it.


I enjoyed reading the latest episode in your long-running thread last night. You sure have carved out an attractive lifestyle for yourself over there. May it long continue. My best regards to you.


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