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Originally Posted by Thighboots2  FF,
Amen brother. You have seen the light. Heels are heels, just 'cos they aint pencil thin doesn't mean a thing, other than you can really enjoy wearing high heels without feeling everyone who sees you is laughing at you. You feel quite normal and so no-one picks up on your insecurity. I still don't understand human nature enough even after having been round the sun 51 times, but I know I do pickup on things like this.
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Seen the light? People laughing at you? Insecurity? Where do the self imposed limitations end? When you make a decision to wear heels with confidence in the right time and place, that's it. There's no looking back.
Just because they are pencil thin, doesn't mean that you have to feel limited in that everyone who sees you is laughing at you. To me, that would be akin to letting the heels wear you, not you wearing the heels.
In my view, style is built around boundless opportunity for self expression, for attitude precedes attire, without designifying the importance of proper attire. A couple of quotes from Chanel sum this up quite well:
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Originally Posted by Coco Chanel Elegance is not the prerogative of those who have just escaped from adolescence, but of those who have already taken possession of their future. |
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Originally Posted by Coco Chanel Look for the woman in the dress. If there is no woman, there is no dress. |
In other words, you have to wear the stilettos, not let the stilettos wear you. You already know this Thighboots2, so I'm not addressing the latter directly at you, but at other readers of this post. The reason you are so successful at wearing thicker heels in public is because your attitude about yourself precedes your attire. Your comfort leads to confidence and people sense your confidence as much as -- or even before they sense -- your outfit.
I don't know about anyone else here, but I am surely not going to let the stiletto and the socially constructed stereotypes that accompany wearing it define who I am when I wear them. I am going to wear stilettos built from a self image of boundless opportunistic self expression and kick a@s doing it too.
Just my two cents as echoed from a pit of darkness.